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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The way I see it, there are two types of SAHMs.  Those that have to because their salary will not cover childcare and those who are lucky enough to be in a financial situation that allows them to stay home.

To the latter I say, embrace your choice and recognize this is a luxury.  If I could check out of the daily 9-5 grind I would in a heartbeat.  Of course what you do is difficult, most people realize caring for kids is hard, which is why we pay people to do it.  It's just that being a working parent is more difficult and it's okay to accept that you wanted a less difficult path.  As a SAHM, you will never have to worry about backup care on a snow day, getting out of a meeting because you have a sick child, prepping dinners/lunches the night before, grocery shopping on a lunch break, etc.

FWIW, many of my SAHM friends seem to have less tolerance for stress.  I think being a working mom makes you better organized and more able to handle unexpected situations because you have to be.  What kills me is when SAHMs post about needing more respect and how what they do is hard when the rest of us think gee how nice it would be to not have to balance my work life and kid's schedule.  And when you make comments about "outsourcing" our kids, it comes off as sanctimonious because the whole reason you get to SAH is because of someone else's hard work to pay your bills.

FWIW, we all make the easier choice in life at times.  I chose a lesser paying government attorney job than my friends who went into big law.  I was blessed with no student loans, so I was able to make that choice.  Never in a million years would I gripe to my big law friends about how stressful my job is when it pales in comparison to theirs.

So basically I say to SAHMs, [b]just rock your decision and acknowledge it[/b] is a luxury not some huge sacrifice.  And don't throw it in the face of working moms and expect us to fawn over what a martyr you are.[/quote]

[b]As soon as WOHMs rock their decision and acknowledge that they really are NOT with their kids most of the day.  There isn't necessarily anything wrong with that - doesn't mean you're not bonded or have a great relationship.  But don't act like being away all day long is EXACTLY the same as being home all day.  [/b]

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You act like your kids will be home with you forever. They will go to school and then what will you do with you time?  Planning to go to work?[/quote]

What the fuck difference does it make to you what i do with my time???! How is it your business???  Who are you people the fucking time police? Aaarghhh[/quote]

And you don't think the previous comment is at all provocative?  That PP seems to have forgotten that children will eventually go to school and WOHMs with school age children aren't exactly missing their whole day with their kids.  And WOHMs that don't have a choice about working aren't exactly super excited to be told that they are missing their child's entire day.

Perhaps the other PP should not have responded the way they did - but you really don't see why they might have?  [/quote]

Aren't they? Kids are tired after after school care, you make dinner and they go to bed.  :roll: [/quote]

aren't they what?  [/quote]

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