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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Who cares that he didn't book anything for three months.

This goes back to the original premise of this thread. Why is she  "assigning" him this task. If this is something that's important to her, she should just book it for them.
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Asking him to make something that's a priority for you a priority for him doesn't work. People don't work that way.

My DH has never booked a trip or made social plans for us. it's not important to him, but it is important to me. For a while I tried to force him to do it, it just made us both miserable.[/b]

Now if I want to do something i just book it. He will go and enjoy himself, but he's not a planner. It's not his thing. He has other things that he takes care of that are a priority for him, and I appreciate that.[/quote]

I disagree. Men put plenty of effort into relationships when they're new, planning dates and such, and often that slows way down after marriage and then kids. This is a commonly discussed phenomenon on these boards (and incidentally connected to the waning sex issue for many couples). When my husband and I went through something similar, we had a discussion about it and I said something to the effect of "when you don't make plans for us to do fun things together, it makes me feel like you are no longer into this relationship. I don't want to be the only one making an effort." Something in that conversation clicked for him because now he often does take the reigns in making plans. [/quote]

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