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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Not the PP but that's bs you don't just lose your kids because your ex husband has more money. You sound bitter.
Go tend to your husband before someone takes him.[/quote]
Then you should ask the Stepmother of the Year what story they used with the judge to make it sound like "more financially stable" is the right reason to take the kids away. [/quote]

Is that me?  Am I "stepparent of the year"?  Awesome.  I'm sure there are much better stepmothers, but I'll take it!  :)

I don't know why I am even answering, but here you go - We (sorry, my DH) gained physical custody when the kids were 4 and 7.  This was about a year after the divorce.  We were paying $2,850 a month in child support for two kids.  They lived in a very low cost of living area.  She could have easily supported herself and the kids on the $34,200 per year she received in child support.  Remember, that is TAX FREE income.   A part time job would have made it very easy.  We also paid for daycare and 1/2 of medical, extra-curricular, and other expenses.  We provided health and medical insurance.  She still managed to be evicted from three home after the home that my DH gave her was foreclosed on.  The mortgage payments were very reasonable.  THREE HOMES plus the foreclosure.  She had utilities shut off over and over again.  She simply was not able to take care of them.  She loves them.  But she is a child.  She never grew up.  She thought it was funny to get speeding tickets.  She lost her car insurance after her fifth speeding ticket. Right after her third eviction, she got breast implants! Again, she was a 30 something year old teenager.

Yes, we did move.  DH is a fed.  We were transferred to D.C.  At that point, she had made very little effort to see the kids in close to two years.  Had she been an active part of their lives, my DH might have turned down the promotion and stayed.  We petitioned the court and we were allowed to move with the kids.  The kids didn't even really know her by that point.  After we moved, we offered to pay for them to fly to see her.  There was always an excuse.  There was always a reason it was a bad time.

So yes, financial stability matters.  It just does.  We were able to give all five of our kids a warm, clean, safe, stable home.   You are essentially attacking me for loving my stepchildren.  Two of my biological kids have a stepmother.  I am over-the-moon thrilled that she loves them and they love her. [/quote]

I'm going to say you are awesome. [/quote]

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