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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]what do you know? with the recent gains he's now solidly in obese category. and trust me all obese kids have a complex of their body and an eating disorder - they overeat. my job is to help him overcome both.[/quote]

I presume you are responding to my post, 13:24, where I said quite bluntly that you were likely to end up influencing your child to develop an eating disorder. In hindsight, my delivery was harsh and unkind, and for that I apologize.

What do I know? Well, not your kid's specific situation, but I do know that as a young adult in my mid to late 20s I struggled with anorexia, and while there were a multitude of underlying reasons for that it certainly did not help one bit that my mom watched my weight like a hawk from around age 8 onward. Even when I was away at college, when I would come home or she would drop by to see me, it was one of the first things she would comment on. "you look like you lost/gained some weight." "how's your weight?" "your clothes fit [tighter/looser] than normal." "what have you been eating?"

None of those things helped me develop any sort of healthy relationship between my body & food. It was absolutely the wrong approach. I know my mother meant well, and I'm sure you do too, but I don't think the sort of approach that I get the impression you are taking with you son based on your posts is going to end well at all. It probably won't achieve your goal for him to have a healthy body, diet, and attitude about food or weight.

If he is actually obese, has his doctor had any useful suggestions for how to approach the situation?[/quote]

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