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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"Entitled to sex" is such a loaded phrase that I simply can't agree to that inflammatory choice of wording.
I will state that I very much [b]expect[/b] a regular sex life within my marriage.
And although there are alot of great things in our marriage besides sex, I will readily admit that I would not stay married if my wife decided to reject our sexlife, and refused to work on the issue.
I view regular sex as a legitimate and important relationship need, one that would be a total dealbreaker even if the marriage was otherwise good (although I really don't see how that is possible, yet I read this in alot of "sexless marriage" threads!)

Why does anybody feel entitled to a (faithful) marriage with little sex? 
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So if/when you get ED, your wife is welcome to have other sex partners?[/quote]

I am not that previous poster, but yes, I like to believe that, if for some sustained period in my life, my wife wants substantially more sex than I can provide, that I will be mature enough and caring enough about her needs to encourage her to find it elsewhere if she desires.[/quote]

Agreed, these are very different situations.  If there is a medical reason that a spouse is unable to be sexual that is a totally different conversation than that of a spouse who chooses not to of their own accord.
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That is what low libido is? ... a choice women make? that is what menopause is? a choice to have a dry vagina? that is what not having sex for 6 weeks after birth is? a choice to not put something into an area that (for me) had 52 stitches.... do you think you are being a little dense when you say ED is a medical reason but anxiety, depression, low libido, menopause, postpartum etc are not?[/quote]

Are these medical issues though? Seems like exactly no one in this thread has said that men or women should have sex despite medical issues. And if a man goes and sorts out ED women can and should go and sort out those issues and work to restore the intimacy to their marriage. OR if you dont care and it isnt important to you allow your spouse to seek comfort elsewhere. You arent interested so your spouse should just lose interest? [/quote]

Actually everybody on this thread and every other thread about low sex drive/lack of sex... tells women to have duty sex, just get it done, give him a blow job, etc.

none of the threads say to the men, be patient, see a doctor, work through this, talk to your wife,

If a man has ED, it's understood. If a woman has a low libido, it is characterized as "not taking care of her man" and "expect him to take care of business elsewhere" NOT "that sucks your wife has a medical issue, stay strong, be understanding, work through it".[/quote]

You are completely making shit up. I personally have said all the things you say none of those threads say. And many many other posters have said those things too. Advice on a sex problem in a marriage usually means giving advice to both sides. To women its, 'try to have more sex' because frequently with women there is a 'use it or lose it' thing going on. Frequently I am not really feeling it but by the time we're up and going I'm totally into it. That requires me to have pushed through the initial disinterest. Advice to the man has to do with ways to make his wife feel relaxed, loved, sexually relaxed.

You are actually the worst thing I've seen on this board in a long time in relation to this problem because you are exemplifying the caricature of a woman that every bitter sex starved man has in his head. Of the woman not feeling like this is something she's responsible for and not caring about how he feels about the situation. You make them think they're right. In reality women frequently want to fix this problem too.

You CLEARLY don't understand marriage, at the absolute minimum.

- the 30 year old woman pp from above[/quote]

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