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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"Entitled to sex" is such a loaded phrase that I simply can't agree to that inflammatory choice of wording.
I will state that I very much [b]expect[/b] a regular sex life within my marriage.
And although there are alot of great things in our marriage besides sex, I will readily admit that I would not stay married if my wife decided to reject our sexlife, and refused to work on the issue.
I view regular sex as a legitimate and important relationship need, one that would be a total dealbreaker even if the marriage was otherwise good (although I really don't see how that is possible, yet I read this in alot of "sexless marriage" threads!)

Why does anybody feel entitled to a (faithful) marriage with little sex? 
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So if/when you get ED, your wife is welcome to have other sex partners?[/quote]

I am not that previous poster, but yes, I like to believe that, if for some sustained period in my life, my wife wants substantially more sex than I can provide, that I will be mature enough and caring enough about her needs to encourage her to find it elsewhere if she desires.[/quote]

Agreed, these are very different situations.  If there is a medical reason that a spouse is unable to be sexual that is a totally different conversation than that of a spouse who chooses not to of their own accord.
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That is what low libido is? ... a choice women make? that is what menopause is? a choice to have a dry vagina? that is what not having sex for 6 weeks after birth is? a choice to not put something into an area that (for me) had 52 stitches.... do you think you are being a little dense when you say ED is a medical reason but anxiety, depression, low libido, menopause, postpartum etc are not?[/quote]

The misogyny on this thread is unsurprising, but still gross and sad.  I'm glad many of these men are from an older generation and I dont have to deal with them.  But for the ladies that have to... I'm sorry.[/quote]

I'm a 30 year old woman (who is married) and who is NOT a shrinking violet who thinks that this thread is incredibly dismissive of men actually. I find THAT gross and sad. [/quote]

I also find it very dismissive of marriage.  Every post has either said the woman should just do what she wants and not have sex and the man should be unhappy about it or leave.  It is all about the individual. Nothing about what a marriage theoretically is, two people who are committed to each other and each other's happiness and make sacrifices for each other.  Maybe it is just an extension of the "me-ism" that rules our culture.  If I don't want to I'm not going to.  Take it or pound sand.  Not what I signed up for when I got married.[/quote]

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