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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hear, hear, OP. I am the daughter of an Indian immigrant mother (naturalized US citizen) who came to America in the 1960s to study organic chemistry. She was proud to work, even when she had difficulty finding jobs in her field because she was "overqualified." My dad is also Indian American and a proud feminist. I would never give up the opportunity to study and "develop my mind" and contribute to my family through challenging work, as you put it so well. When a country and people become rich, they forget what previous generations fought so hard for. I agree American women have the choice to stay home, and that choice is a good thing, but it does disappoint me greatly that so many well educated women would choose it. [b]You may choose, but I judge your choice and find it lame[/b].[/quote]

Which is very telling, isn't it?  Sorry your life is so unhappy you feel the need to judge others - who actually ARE happy.   :lol: [/quote]

ditto this. 
Happy people don't judge others.  Period. [/quote]

OP here.

This is silly. We just think it is a shame to not take advantage of so many opportunities available to women in this country. Motherhood is amazing and life changing but honestly, children really really need you to be there the first 12 years of their life. Once they become teenagers they do not need a parent hovering over their every move. Women need to develop a sense of identity aside from being a mom and a purpose besides being a mother. What will you do once your kid goes off to college? Once the hard work of 4 am feedings, cleaning poop and giving baths are over, a woman needs to find other means to occupy her time.

Why would you not want to develop your mind, learn new things, grow as an individual and as a professional? Don't you want to step outside your house in the suburbs and find things to talk about other than how there's a great deal on Jack Rogers at Nordstroms or how your 6 year old needs glasses?

You're in the United States of America. You can be more than just a housewife. Don't you want to show your daughter or son that you, as a woman, can take an active role in your community?

I don't stay up at night worried for what you're missing out on but sometimes, as I am walking down the aisle at whole foods and see a woman who is clearly a SAHM, these thoughts cross my mind. 
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I guarantee you, the woman you're judging in Whole Foods really couldn't care less what you think about her.  How funny that you would judge someone you don't even know.  You have no idea what she does or who she is or what her story is.  Nor are any of those things your business at all.  Perhaps you should stick to your own very narrow view of the world and how it "should" run.[/quote]

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