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[quote=Anonymous]So is there a DCUM consensus that hitting kids is ok? I am shocked by this thread - seriously. Hitting your kid is wrong, I don't care how you justify it to yourself. There are many many other ways to discipline. And to hit your kid and then say you love them is conditional parenting. Try unconditional parenting. I love you when you're good, when you're bad, whenever, no conditions. Announcing how we plan to punish children (“Remember: if you do x, then I’ll do y to you”) may salve our conscience because we gave them fair warning, but all we’ve really done is threaten them. We’ve told them in advance exactly how we’ll make them suffer if they fail to obey. This communicates a message of distrust (“I don’t think you’ll do the right thing without the fear of punishment”), leads kids to think of themselves as complying for extrinsic reasons, and emphasizes their powerlessness. [/quote]
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