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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think the key is removing the emotion and anger from the spanking.  There are a few things that are automatic spankings in our house- lying, disobeying, putting yourself or others in danger and being directly defiant.  We're not just smacking kids whenever we feel like it - I think that's where the issue comes in.  I always send the child to his/her room before being spanked so we can both cool down.  THEN I or my husband goes in there and we have a matter of fact discussion about what went wrong, and why they are getting a spanking. We do do the over the lap style (or one son would rather lean over the bed)..one swat for each year the child is old.  Afterwards the kid tell us what he learned and how he'll do better next time.  Of course, hugs and kisses and we always tell the child how much we love them and how we know they can do better next time.

It's a teaching moment.  We move on, the slate is wiped clean, and it's no big deal.  [/quote]

How did you come up with this method? Is this what your parents did? What age range do you use this, or plan to use it for? Do they just willingly go over your lap, or get into position? Are you pulling pants down for this? [/quote]
Yes, it is what my parents used (similar, I guess).  Started at age 4 or so, and the oldest is 8.  Yes.  No, absolutely not.[/quote]

Can I ask your demographic information? Really just curious. Ages? race? religion or not? where you grew up, where you live?[/quote]

Late 30s, white, loosely Catholic,  grew up in suburbs of Boston, live in NoVa.[/quote]

Do you know a lot of other parents who do this and mention it, or is it just something that people keep quiet about?[/quote]

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