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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think the key is removing the emotion and anger from the spanking.  There are a few things that are automatic spankings in our house- lying, disobeying, putting yourself or others in danger and being directly defiant.  We're not just smacking kids whenever we feel like it - I think that's where the issue comes in.  I always send the child to his/her room before being spanked so we can both cool down.  THEN I or my husband goes in there and we have a matter of fact discussion about what went wrong, and why they are getting a spanking. We do do the over the lap style (or one son would rather lean over the bed)..one swat for each year the child is old.  Afterwards the kid tell us what he learned and how he'll do better next time.  Of course, hugs and kisses and we always tell the child how much we love them and how we know they can do better next time.

It's a teaching moment.  We move on, the slate is wiped clean, and it's no big deal.  [/quote]

I'm like a moth at a flame. The idea that a parent would hug and kiss afterwards is emotional abuse. That is what controlling abuse looks like in adult relationships. At least mine (thank you parents!) would leave immediately because I remember wanting to hit my mom back. I remember my brother crying hysterically in frustration and humiliation. If they had tried to hug us I would have had to go into the bathroom and hurl or take a shower. [/quote]
Oh. This is the kind of discipline my parents used, and I in no way felt as you did.  Everyone's different, I guess.[/quote]

same here (np)[/quote]

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