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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Has anyone here seen the statistics on affairs? It's not exactly anti-social behavior.

I'm not the OP, but I'm one of the OW posters who was called a sociopath. I'm definitely not a sociopath, but I don't feel like I need to decide to feel shame because people on a message board said I should. I think adults are capable of making these decisions for themselves. My AP talks about an open agreement between he and his wife. That's between them. I'm not sure that I believe him, but he's a grown man and can decide for himself. [/quote]

Not the OP, but agreed. I have been the OW and I've been with a man who cheated on me with another W.  I can't hold her responsible for his actions, nor am I responsible for anyone but myself.

[b]Most of the self-righteous, judgemental women on here are just envious.[/b][/quote]

[b]Of?... being in your 40's, never been married and basically being a f*k buddy? No thanks.[/quote][/b]

Not OP here, but I can think of many things someone might envy in this person's life. For one, having the complete freedom to do what she wants too do, when she wants to do it. There are a lot of replies that talk about how she is "missing" something by not being married.  Being single has the advantage of not having to compromise.  Married people, come on and admit it. Don't you sometimes look at your spouse and think "I wish I'd never laid eyes on you".  Being single means she can spend her money any way she wants to, save or not, splurge or not. I think the vehemence of the responses indicate some hidden aggression.[/quote]

I'm the PP who is definitely not jealous of the OP.

I love being married to my DH.  I get OP doesn't want to be married, but the majority of women I know, even the ones that don't necessarily want to be married, do still want a LT relationship. Most women do not want to be alone.   OP is not in a LT relationship.  She is a F*K buddy. So, again, no, I am not jealous.

I was talking to some married women the other day, and we all agreed, we can't imagine being back on the dating seen.  It's ugly out there.  We are all married 15+ yrs to our DH.  We all have our good/bad days in our relationships, but[b] I would rather still be married to my DH than have OP's singledom. [/b] Sure, I miss down time and freedom, but I had that with my DH.  It's kids that cause you to lose your freedom.[/quote]

Wouldn't it be hilarious if her AP is one of your DHs?[/quote]

If it were, all the more reason why people are hating on her.  [/quote]

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