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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Oh my goodness. Fourteen pages of trying to reason with a bunch of hateful ignoramuses? People, you know there's no getting the last word with these ya-hoos, no convincing them to admit to the slightest possibility that there might be room for considering other options besides "NO ADOPTION EVER. I WOULDN'T DO IT SO NO ONE ELSE HAD BETTER EVEN CONSIDER IT"...right?[/quote]

Oh for heaven's sake! There are multiple people posting here about adoption, with varying degrees of reasonableness on both sides.

I posted way back when and said, AS AN ADOPTIVE PARENT, I think private infant adoption -- not talking about foster care, now -- is a solution in search of a problem -- the "demand" for healthy babies far outstrips the "supply," and the people who are eager to adopt are generally (not universally, but generally) more affluent, which means they are able to exert more influence over the process, which (I believe) does a real disservice to women who would like to parent but face obstacles.

During my adoption process, I encountered a ton of prospective adoptive parents who would say straight out, "We're paying the agency's fees, we're their client, they owe it to us to do x." And if, on the other side, the pregnant woman and/or the child up for adoption were also someone's client, that would be fair. But the kids aren't paying anybody anything, and plenty of adoption agencies will tell pregnant women things like, "You don't need to hire a lawyer, we take care of that for you!" like that's a good thing.

I don't think there should be NO ADOPTION EVER!

I think we need better services so women aren't forced by circumstance to place their child for adoption when they really want to parent. (I'm the one who posted the three-point list of resources. And I think it's ironic that the people who criticize that list by invoking "responsibility" are the ones trying to disclaim any responsibility for their fellow citizens.)

I think we should abolish private adoption, and all adoption should occur through the foster care system (which, granted, needs a LOT of improvement).

I would also say that IVF and similar procedures should be covered by insurance, as a matter of mandate, so that people who really want the infant experience can get that without contributing to an industry that subtly (and sometimes unsubtly) pressures women to relinquish their kids.

I love, love, love my adopted daughter. And if she gets pregnant at 16, I am going to back her to the hilt in whatever choice she makes, whether that's abortion or adoption or parenting her child. Because as much as I love my kid, I think it's awful that her mom didn't get that kind of support from her own family.
[/quote] You are making the mistake of extrapolating your experience to all other adoption experience which shows a lack of mature and critical thought. You are also not looking beyond the limited scope of domestic adoption to address the needs of children in throw-away societies that culturally do not adopt and seem to be conflagrating private adoption experience with agency adoption.  BTW, i have had experience with foster care and I would not wish that hell on any child no matter how flawed the private adoption system may currently be and I can't believe any moral, caring human being would wish that on any child. No amount of money or reform will fix this system to make foster care the preferable option. I am astounded and dismayed at your narrow view. [/quote]

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