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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op, don't be so sure that your daughter and her friends haven't been up to their own inappropriate behavior with this boy and his friends. [/quote]

I found it very suspect that she had no idea who any of the boys were, yet they go to her school.

Your daughter might not be telling the entire truth here.[/quote]

Her middle school has almost 1,000 students in two grades. You may find it suspect, but that's your problem.

She was crying when she called to tell me. She is very upset, even though she reacted immediately and appropriately. I discussed it with her, how she felt about it, etc. I didn't ask for advice on how to deal with her. I'm confident in the discussions we've had today and prior.

I'd like to find a way to let his parents know. Will the principal contact them if it was off of school property?

I don't understand why everyone needs to rewrite the story to suit their own needs. The assumptions and accusations about my child and I are nuts. It says a lot more about you than it does about us. [/quote]

You need to counsel your daughter better. This isn't something to cry about or even be very upset about. Of course SHE should go to the principal and YOU should stay out of it. She should be advocating for herself. [/quote]

NP. Wait... what? Are you serious here? "This isn't something to cry about or be upset about?" Maybe not to you, and that's fine, but you're not the thought police. If something upsets someone, it upsets someone, and that emotion is valid. All this talk about empowering people, and then you want to tell someone how they should think and feel about something that happened to them? Nonsense.

I agree that the principal should be notified, and the other child's parents. He needs to learn that that sort of thing is not alright, and since he clearly doesn't know that someone needs to teach it to him. His school or his parents are the most logical avenues for this, and as a parent I would sure want to know if my kid were behaving like that. I would't like to hear it, obviously, but I would need to know in order to teach my kid better.

And what is this "she should be advocating for herself"? Sure, she "should" be doing that, if that's how she wants it handled. Otherwise, if she would prefer assistance from someone or support in handling the situation, she should have that. I'm sure OP talked with her DD about what the girl wanted to see happen here, but it doesn't seem such a stretch to me that a parent would go with their child to report something like this. Should is a pretty worthless concept anyway except when it comes to moral imperatives, laws, and inescapable practicalities of life -- none of which this situation is. Otherwise all "should" does is delegitimize and disempower pretty much everyone.[/quote]

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