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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]O.p here again. I've been thinking about this more and my feeling of disconnection from him is not simply related to the sex, though that is the most glaringly obvious. The other thing about him is that he is not introspective. He's very much a "doer." If I want to vent to him about work or family or friends, he doesn't seem to get that I just want to pour my feelings out without him trying to "fix" it. He doesn't like to discuss his emotions or his opinions on social issues. He thinks it's boring navel gazing. He hates web sites like slate or salon or opinion pieces. He doesn't like to gossip (which, I know people usually don't admit to enjoying that but I do, especially after a party). He doesn't like to "speculate" which is what he calls my attempts to discuss what might happen to people we know, etc. He doesn't drink. He's not very complicated. He does his job, comes home and wants to eat dinner/futz about in the garden/play with the kids. And this is what makes him completely happy! I guarantee you if you asked him to rate our marriage 1-10 he'd say 8 +.[/quote]

Oh, OP.  WTF.  You want a woman-man.  Yes, a lot of men are not introspective.   Those books on men/women differences will tell you this exact thing - when men hear problems, they want to fix it.  It's hard for them to just listen.  My DH, who is not really a man's man, is still like this.

So, let me get this right - you want a man's man but only in bed, but a woman/man when it comes to discussing feelings and gossiping.  WTF OP.  You make no sense to me at all.

It sounds like you want some drama in your life, some excitement.  You are a like "Desperate Housewife".   I know someone who likes drama and excitement in her life.  The ones I know are alone, no kids, no DH or long term BF.

Please think about your kids' lives, too.[/quote]

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