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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm a feminist, but my DH is head of the household.  What it means is this: sometimes you just can not come to an agreement.  Some times both of you feel the other is wrong.   When we get to that point, we go with his decision because he is the head.

Every family must have a way to cope when this happens.  If this has never happened to you, consider yourself very lucky.  It happens to most couples at least at 1 point in their marriage.

In some families, even families with very feminine Stay at home women, the woman really is the head and her decision carries.  In my family, it is DH.[/quote]

Why can't you sometimes go with your decision even if your DH disagrees with it?  I'm asking out of real curiosity.

I personally would feel resentful if my DH always got the final say when we couldn't come to an agreement.  Instead sometimes I give in to him even if I disagree and sometimes he gives in to me even if he disagrees.  It feels like a real partnership, as messy as that can be. [/quote]'

What if it is something where you both feel very strongly?  For example, what if you had a great job offer in another city while your DH had a great job here?  In the end, one of you must sacrifice for the other.

I think I sacrifice because, frankly, I am stronger than my DH and I know somehow I will make it work, even if I don't like it.[/quote]

Conceding makes you the "strong" one? Huh? You and I do not agree on the definition of strength. You're just giving in to keep household peace.[/quote]

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