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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Attention all self-accepting fatties: if you were overweight when dating, then obviously your spouse is also "accepting" and has no reason (or right) to complain later.

But... and this is pretty important for you to understand ... if you've gained a bunch of weight during the marriage, just because YOU accept this, does not mean your SPOUSE accepts this (or that you can ever make him/her accept this).

Many of us are just NOT attracted to overweight partners, so this is not a sustainable marriage. So the choice is yours: lose the weight to save the marriage, or "self-accept" into a divorce so each can find a more compatible partner.

Neither view is right, neither is wrong, just different.[/quote]

No matter what your beliefs on any of this is, you've no right to call anyone a "fattie". What a mean, first grade name to call someone. If I caught my teenager saying that, I'd ground her for a month. We are all humans with feelings, try acting like an adult. [/quote]

Wonderful! But does that extend to other mean things that your teenager might say to someone else or is it only limited to people who are fat?[/quote]

I refused to raise a bully. I was beaten and bullied as a kid. She was raised to be empathetic and kind. Seeing as she just cooked dinner after my long day, I don't have to worry. But yes, I'd clamp down on her like she'd never believe if I caught her being cruel.[/quote]

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