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This thread has been very eye opening.

I now have more sympathy for parents who can't invite everyone and have to deal with the awkwardness of moms who call or e-mail them to ask if they forgot to invite their kid.  Awkward...

I can't really blame them if they don't respond to those phone calls or e-mails because the other parent put them on the spot--even though the inquiring parent emphasizes that they will understand if their kid really wasn't invited.

While it might be OK to double check with friends and family, it is distasteful to poke social acquaintances.[/quote]

This misrepresents the situation here.  This isn't a mom just calling/emailing out of the blue -- this is the result of a child having been told by the birthday girl that he is invited.

Yeah, it's distasteful -- for everyone.  But guess what, sometimes adults have to step up and be adults and deal with situations kids create.  If you don't want to get the occasional call about a situation your kid created, don't have kids.

[b]It's weird that so many people are focused on the host mother's feelings much more than the 6-year-old boy's.  A invitation to a boy can be ignored without consequences, but a mom can't handle a phone call? Good grief.[/b]  [/quote]

Yes this is the issue for me. You want to exclude six year olds from Larla's amazing party, fine be a bitch, but when Larla invites the unpopular kid herself and creates confusion on her own, it's up to you to put on your big girl panties and explain the lack of invitation.

I think people are just pushing back against this because if you only exclude a few kids from a six year old's party, it is obvious you are kind of just being a jerk, and people do not like to be confronted out in the open with the fact that they are being jerks.

There are people on here saying a six year old doesn't have the power to issue an invitation, but to another six year old, they obviously do. Moreover, emails get typed in wrong all the time and as lots of people here have reported, it could just be a legitimate mistake. [/quote]

Indeed, well said on all counts.

If this boy was excluded, I get that the mom probably doesn't want to be asked about it.  But that is a real low-priority concern here given the context.  She'll get over it a lot faster than the 6-year-old will the disappointment of a withdrawn expectation of going to a party.  Being a mother is long past time to put the big girl panties on.[/quote]

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