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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I can't help but wonder if anyone hating on Kyle has a sister and, in particular, a sister with an alcohol problem.  I have experience with both.  Kyle's behavior seems like the behavior of a sober sibling who has been dealing with her sister's alcoholism for years.  Kyle looked like she was panicking to me.  She whispered very softly to Kim in the bathroom and, remember, Kim followed her.  Kyle was trying to be protective.  Things seemed fine then suddenly Kim is leaving but not before she makes a sarcastic "Thanks, Kyle" jab at Kyle.  I see why Kyle was confused and wanted to see why Kim was suddenly pissed at her.  I have had my sister that gets nasty when she drinks do that to me.  One minute she's nice then suddenly she's nasty as can be.  Those of you who are picking on Kyle and siding with Brandy, I would love to know how you would deal with your sibling getting drunk and calling you at 2 am.  I have gotten that phone call on more than one occasion.  Or, go to a party where your sibling is clearly on something and acting inappropriately.  If you think you wouldn't feel embarrassed for your sister and yourself, you are crazy.  You also feel protective and desperately want to make sure they'll be okay but you are also pissed that they did this again.  What I saw from Kyle was panic--a panic I know well.  Brandy was throwing gas on a fire and she needs rehab badly.

Brandy is full of sh** when she says she has Kim's back.  She enables Kim and Kim enables her.  I have two sisters with drinking problems--they cover for one another and enable each other's drinking.  If you surround yourself with other active alcoholics you can convince yourself your not that bad.  I would be genuinely surprised if they had not been drunk around their children at times.  Not because I think they are horrible mothers but that is what the disease of alcoholism does.  It hijacks your brain and you make stupid decisions, lie to yourself, and lie to others.

Brandy clearly has a drinking problem.  I think she likes hanging out with Kim because she can feel like--well, at least I'm not that bad.  It is Brandy who brought up the 2 am phone call, not Kyle.  Brandy who wanted to put a spotlight on Kim's apparent fall from sobriety--not Kyle.

Lisa R. said that she her husband watched his 2 brothers die of alcoholism within six months of each other.  I think that is why she spoke up about the fact that there was "addiction going on here and no one wants to talk about it."  I appreciate that she is willing to acknowledge the elephant in the room.

As for Eileen telling Brandy that she didn't appreciate her comments, good for Eileen.  The only way people like Brandy change is when people stop putting up with their sh**.  I know hang up on my drunk dialer of a sister.  She is not allowed to get drunk around me or my kids.  If we are having a conversation and she gets nasty, I walk away.  Our relationship has improved and she is finally getting help.  She has even asked me to help her find help.  Putting up with bad behavior from adults is no different than letting kids behave badly with no consequence.  It rewards the bad behavior.  Brandy should stop being defensive and grow up.  She still acts like a rebellious, spoiled, adolescent.

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gosh i wish i knew you in real life. just recently (within the last year) dealing w/this issue w/my sister and its tough. we are/were very close and watching kyle/kim go thru this is heartbreaking. i don't know if i truly believe kyle just puts on a front for cameras because as you know it can get so very tiring dealing w/this that sometimes you act like you don't care and back off and others you feel like you need to try and control them. so, so heartbreaking. and oh yeah kyle has a family and day to day life of her own to live. so that's something to consider too, that she might now have time to drop everything and run every time something dramatic and crazy is happening w/her sister. i'm sure that wasn't not kim's first hospital visit.[/quote]

Yes, I agree.  Wish I knew you too.  I've lost count of the number of times I've gotten a phone call from my sister or her husband or her best friend or her nightmare of a mother-in-law where I am being told of her drinking.  Texts, emails, etc. of a problem I can't control.  It took a toll on me and distracted me from caring for my own young children.  I get that it is a disease and it needs to be treated as such but boy does it take it's toll on family members.  I have more than one sibling affected by this disease and they have said to me when sober, "you just don't know how hard this is.  You don't have to deal with being an alcoholic."  I replied, "you're right, but you don't know how hard it is to be the sober sibling.  To call your elderly parents, who drove 45 minutes to meet your sister for brunch and have been sitting in a restaurant for over an hour, and tell them that you sister is late because she has been drinking all morning.    Or to realize that your sisters were secretly drinking while they stayed at your house and you were worried because they were sleeping so much.  Or to have school plays and functions, vacations, Halloween, your kid's sports games, etc. be interrupted with panicked texts or phone calls from people telling you you have to take care of your sister."  It's relentless.  I finally opened up about what was going on to a couple of close friends, my doctor, and minister.  My sister wasn't happy but she lives out of state and I feel that when you drink and affect my life, you don't get to tell me how I deal with it.  At some point it hit me--I deserve to live my life and enjoy it.  Someday it will end and I want to be happy and enjoy my family.  I don't think that makes me a bad person.  I really felt for Kyle because I could so relate to her in that situation.  I think Lisa R. Could as well which is why she acknowledged the elephant in the room in the limo tide.[/quote]

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