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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  DD has a small "study" attached to her bedroom and she and her boyfriend study up there (or at least part of the time now).  We never disturb her.  Her room also has an door to the outside so we don't even know went he comes and goes (Christ, the puns are inevitable!)

DD told me that her doctor tested them both for STDs, even though she was a virgin, and they came back clean.

I know his parents but don't feel comfortable bring up this issue with them - should I?  I don't know if they know...

On one hand, I am very proud of the way DD handled this - she told her boyfriend that there would be no fooling around at all before they made the decision to get into a sexual relationship and to go to the doctor.  She felt very strongly that, as the female, she didn't want to play the game of the girl being the "goal keeper" and the one responsible for saying no.  Apparently he respected this so there was nothing beyond kissing until she had a month on the pill.

On the other hand, my daughter is having sex in her bedroom with her boyfriend!!!!  I just cannot get past this and honestly don't know if there is anything I could or should do!!!  I wasn't prepared for this and I don't know why I wasn't - denial, I guess.

DD's father passed away when she was seven and I have not told her step-father.  She very close to him and he adores her - I don't know how he would take it.

The readers of this thread are the only people who know my daughter is having sex.  Regularly.  Upstairs.   [/quote]

Yikes! Why don't you just get her an apartment of her own since she is basically raising herself. These comments are so depressing. [/quote]

Not OP but the daughter is 16 and clearly has been raised right to make such responsible decisions about her own life.  You do not become the top ranked student in your class by making wrong decisions.

You raised her right, OP, now you have to trust her and let her continue to grow up.  [/quote]

+1. Sounds like she is just done with childhood. Some teens really are responsible early, and ready for the adult world before the adult world is ready for them. She sounds like a great young lady who is just ready to move into the next phase of her life, including a mature relationship. How long have they been together? If the relationship is a healthy and positive influence in her life I would not worry about this or let it change much of anything. The only thing I would do is make sure to verify the laws about age of consent. I would encourage them to tell the other parents, but it's really their business to do so or not. [/quote]

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