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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I once had a new dad tell DH and I that he wouldn't welcome anyone into his home unless they provided "food or function" - that is, either a meal or an offer to clean/mow/grocery shop/etc. I thought it was weird and rude then, and now that I've my kids myself, I still feel that way. I've never expected people to show up at my house and do my chores (though I'm always grateful for food!). Some people get very self-absorbed when they have a new baby and think it entitles them to weeks of servitude from friends and family.[/quote]

Good for that new dad for stepping up!

OP, not everything is about you.  Either go or don't go.

Yikes, this reminds me of how rude my MIL was when we had babies.  Awful.

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Stepping up?  Seriously?  Stepping up doesn't mean being rude to your friends and family by demanding that they to only show up "for food or function".  I have kids too, and I think it's incredibly rude.  And yes, I was very grateful for the help and food we received - but we never demanded or even asked.  OP - do yourself a favor and don't go.  Or just drop an acceptable meal and don't stay more than 10 seconds. [/quote]

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