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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]BigLaw wife here: Most of the wives of partners have low hour jobs. Or they do not work at all, especially when the kids are young. Very few double partner couples with children. Those who do, have a LOT of extra help. Female BigLaw partners often do not have children. Check it out -- there are not that many female Biglaw partners in the first place.[/quote]

Yes, we are like the mythical Bigfoot.  Who knows if we really even exist?  (Sorry, but having a husband who works for a law firm doesn't make you an expert on the legal industry.  Especially not an expert on WOMEN in the legal industry.)

Honestly, I think a lot of people posting comments about how hard it is to be in BigLaw and have kids are being fed a bunch of baloney by their spouses.  Yes, it's a lot of work to be a litigation partner at an international law firm.  No, it doesn't mean that you get to abdicate being a parent, too.  [/quote]

NP, here.  Husband is a biglaw partner, I'm former biglaw too.  Between us, we have worked at 5 large law firms with large DC offices.  I agree with the person you're responding to--there are few biglaw female partners.  Further, many of them don't have children.  Most of the ones who have children do have spouses who stay home or have low hour jobs.  Further, there are very very very few female partners who are true rainmakers.  I can only point to one or two that I have met--and those ladies were definitely not meeting their kids at the bus stop or taking them to piano lessons or doctors appointments.

So yes, if you're a regulatory partner or a service partner, it will be a lot easier for you to cover regular parenting duties.  But, if you're a rainmaker who's responsible for bringing in work and heading multimillion dollar deals, it's going to be impossible for you to make dinner and tuck the kids in with any sort of regularity.[/quote]

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