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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No, it does not make her selfish.  It does make her burdened with a  very self centered partner, though.  Some needs are more important than others, seeing as you have admitted the fact that you CAN indeed pleasure yourself, then sex is not as important as other needs SUCH AS YOUR CHILDREN.  If intimacy is really what you are after, then do things that make her feel close to you with no expectation of sex.  Like we have said, take her out, get a babysitter all that.

But you are clearly a little baby who wants to whine about it and doesnt want a solution that involves you doing any work at all. [/quote]

Repeating myself.... Children do NOT require 24x7 parental care! There is plenty of time every single week to both care for the children AND to have an intimate marriage.
I am all for taking her out, baby sitter, etc. Plenty of time every week for all of that.
It is not an either or (children or sex). It's both. We should prioritize both.[/quote]

For a few years, mine did pretty much require 24x7 parental care.  With the exception of the 5 hours a night she would sleep in her crib.  And, really, I needed the sleep at that point if we didn't want me to have a psychotic break.  Some babies are higher needs than others, and you seem sort of shockingly unaware of that, to the extent that I get the sense you're not very involved in the childcare.  Then, have another baby before the first one is even out of diapers, and then the next one has issues too, and you are pretty well f'd for a good 3 years.  Throw a job on top of that.  Yeah, it's not pretty.[/quote]

x2.  Sorry but this dude is a lazy bitch and I'm guessing he doesnt help with childcare AT ALL.[/quote]

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