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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous] 
You seriously think you're need to get off is more important than your child's needs?  [/quote]
First of all, my children do NOT require full parental support 24x7. There is at LEAST a spare 30 minutes EVERY week.
Second, "getting off" is not just my need. Sexual intimacy is OUR need, the need of BOTH partners, the need of the marriage itself, and benefits our children to ensure a happy lasting marriage.

[quote=Anonymous] 
Or your wife's preferences?  [/quote]
I would (and have) dealt with this issue. It turns out, my wife actually prefers to be in a marriage where I meet her needs and she meets mine. Now, if she REALLY preferred not to have sex with me, I'd be discretely dating. My wife does not get to force celibacy upon me, that is an unreasonable preference, like if I preferred not to "hear about her day" that just does not work.

[quote=Anonymous] Here's an idea:  You have two hands, USE THEM!  [/quote] Here is an idea: there are plenty of women who agree that sex is an important need for any relationship.

[quote=Anonymous] If you aren't wiling to put the effort into making the intimacy SATISFYING for your wife as well (which would require longer than 15 minutes, FYI) then how about not putting demands on her to make it satisfying for you?[/quote]   I am happy and able to go as long as she wants. Longer is always better. Glad we agree on this point.

[quote=Anonymous] Take the matter into your own hands (literally) and jerk one out.[/quote] On occasion I do just that, thanks for the invitation.

[quote=Anonymous]I will never understand people who prioritize sex over things like children and other really pressing issues. [/quote]
I will never understand people who allow children's infinite needs to exclude some intimacy with their spouse.

[quote=Anonymous] Get a sex toy or something, and leave your poor, harried wife alone for a while.  [/quote]
Wife is harried by choice, and it is a very selfish choice. So no thank you, I will instead help wife with all reasonable child care, discourage her from going far off the deep end with UN-reasonable child care, then seek our times for intimacy.

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You're an idiot.  There is a huge difference between making conversational chit-chat about someone's day, and allowing someone to penetrate your body.  Require very different levels of emotional investment.

As for the invitation to jerk one out, your welcome.  You shouldn't need my invite.  Sounds like you have a lot of tension and anger and jerking it more frequently might really help with that.  Man up and just do it.

And no her choice is not selfish.  Her choice is to take care of YOUR CHILDREN, you ingrate.  "At least 30 minutes a week."  Are you kidding?  That's it?  Why dont you hire someone to do some of her tasks if you want to get laid so much and she only has 30 minutes in her entire week to spare?  or pitch in yourself?  Oh right, that would require some work, something you seem incapable of. [/quote]

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