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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you grew up in poverty, do you resent your parents for it? Why or why not? [/quote]

I try hard not to let these feelings bubble to the surface, but yes, I do resent them.  [b]There was always money for cigarettes and beer.  They were callous about taking small amounts of money from me (like birthday gifts) and never returning it, even though they knew they were just going to fritter it away and it could have brought me some happiness. [/b] They were absolutely incapable of budgeting so that things could have been just a little bit more bearable.  I begged them to let me handle things like grocery shopping and they refused.

What I really resent today, though, is that they let me believe our suffering was all because of a lack of money.  I worked like crazy to get out of there, to make a life for myself, and to earn a lot.  And I've done that.  But now as I grow older and parent my own children, I realize we were missing so much more.  The damage inflicted through causing us to grow up in poverty pales in comparison to the damage inflicted through abuse and neglect.  [/quote]

This [u]exactly[/u] happened to me and my siblings as well. I got a part time job in high school so I could have lunch every day, buy clothes and hygiene products. My mom got SO ANGRY with me when I wouldn't give my money to her. At first I did then I just refused. I wasn't going back to starving for anyone. My brother let her take all his money though. Sad.[/quote]

Pp you quoted here.  Yes, same with me.  First job at 15 and I used the money for toiletries and food mostly.  Lunch was usually a brownie from our school cafeteria which was 40 cents.  I also got a coupon card that worked at the local Wendy's - getting straight As on my report card got me half off the entire menu, so I ate a baked potato with ketchup on it just about every day for dinner, for just 50 cents.

I'm now in the same situation others have mentioned, pushing food on my nearly 3 year old, who thankfully is slender, but I really have to work through this stuff.  [/quote]

Reading this thread really fills a space within me. If anyone I have known went through this, they never said. It's so gratifying to hear from others who got to the other side. The stories never end, right? After I got my job I used to get bagels at brunch time at school, and I was SO HAPPY to finally be able to get a snack when I wanted it. And lunch. I could never concentrate on my after lunch classes because I was hungry.  :cry:

I have a 2 year old and I am indulgent with her about food. If she asks for it, unless it's sweets, I pretty much always give it to her. There is ALWAYS too much food on her plate, but I never try to get her to eat more than she wants. And if she doesn't want her dinner, I give her something she does want. She has not turned out to be a monster, somehow.

High five to both of us. Really. [/quote]

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