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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Be honest, you didn't really want to work all that much and preferred being home with the kids rather than enduring corporate or office drudgery. It's a totally fine and understandable preference, but own it. You were relieved that husband's high salary could accommodate that lifestyle preference even if it could potentially end up in a result like this. Well, welcome to the result...

Time to start taking accountability for your choices and preferences and, ultimately, life by probably getting a job now rather than fretting too much over a spousal support settlement. [/quote]
STOP THIS MISOGYNISTIC BS. IT’S SO GOD DAMNED TIRED.[/quote]

Sorry the truth hurts. Most of these women would work dead end retail jobs for the rest of their lives. [/quote]

This area is the most highly educated in the country. Many women who stay home have graduate and professional degrees. It is super common. Your circle must be a huge outlier if that is what you think about women in this area. [/quote]

At look at the attrition rate of women who finish medical school and then are ready to downgrade or drop out of the profession after 5 years. Education and credentials do not  change the original premise that the preference for a lot of these women is to not work outside of the home. They dress it up it whatever language about "sacrifice" they need to to save face because the prevailing zeitgeist and their peers would look down upon them making such a choice. Easier to shift those negative feelings toward big, bad hubby. [/quote]

It’s not “after five years.”  It’s “after having children.”  
And I can guarantee you that it’s not a “preference to be home.”  It is the hubby who pays lip service to helping out, but he doesn’t.  
It doesn’t even have to be your husband.  It might be your chair who thinks that women are going to want to be home with their kids, and so he takes the program you started or the fellowship you put into place or the multi-site research study you initiated and got through the IRB and puts a man in charge of it and gives you a secondary role.

Read the book “Opting Out.”

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Nope, you're wrong. 40% leave altogether or go part time within 6 years (not 5) of leaving residency. Look at that mountain of excuses you're rolling out.[/quote]

Yes.  People finish residency at about 30 years old.  Six years after that, they are 36.  That’s. when. women.  have. babies.

What’s the mountain of excuses?  I gave you a book to read.  Did you read it?  [/quote]

"It's not after 5 years". Maybe you need to read a book...[/quote]

Sure.  What book do you have with women physicians saying that they are sorry they went into the profession because they prefer to not to work?

Again, this is not what I see with the early career physicians I mentor.  [/quote]

Read the thread. On average, more would rather be home with their babies. They just aren't going to readily admit it in this climate, especially after all of that time spent in education, hence...the mountain of excuses and pretzel logic, that I'm sure you're about to trot out.[/quote]

Are you a dude?  I disageee most women would rather be home with their kids. Kids are hard work and working is easier. [/quote]

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