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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]1. [quote=Anonymous]Boyfriend of 2 years began talking about children making emphasis that he wanted them to be his. I then asked what would happen if I can't have kids. He said he would discontinue the relationship. While I recognize his right to pursue bio children, I feel uncomfortable with someone that would say something like this to me and I'm leaning towards moving on.

Has anybody had a similar experience?[/quote]

2. [quote][b]You are going to screen for dishonest men. [/b] You will wind up with someone who is a good liar..If you don't want to hear honest answers to difficult questions, then don't ask them.[/quote]

3. [quote]You think all men want kids?
Or that men who want kids want to trick women who don't into marrying them and then, what, replace their partners' birth control pills with aspirin tablets?

Are you insane, or is this, like, a fetish for you?[/quote]

4. [quote]Your post makes no sense and is not a response.  OPs bf wants kids.  So has nothing to do with men who don't.  OP hasn't said she wants kids herself in the first place.  I think you actually realize that's the issue here since you're talking about her birth control pills.[/quote]

The only way her question "screens for dishonest men" is if either all men want kids, or the ones that do will lie to her. It's your response that makes no sense. 
[/quote].

I didn't say her question screens for dishonest men. I said her entire relationship methodology screens for dishonest men.  Men who will tell her what she wants to hear. .

She is also being dishonest
  She doesn't want to have children with her bf or at least is not sure she can commit to that before a marital commitment is made, or ever.  All she needed to do is tell him "I am not sure that I want to have kids if we get married," which is the truth of the situation.  No need to talk about hypothetical infertility at all.  Just a need to be honest, which she isn't [/quote]

Women can't ask questions, now? they are limited to making declarative statements?

Is there anything about women that you don't want to control? [/quote]

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