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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I make between one and three dishes and have them sitting on the cooktop. Everyone gets their plate, takes what they want, gets a fork and something to drink and takes it to the table. The only thing I put on the table is cut up fruit in a bowl.
Does this bother my husband? Yes. He grew up in a family where the table was set and the meat-and-potato food was all plated and set before him by Mom. But he’s used to my ways and he’s certainly not going to start cooking and setting the table. 
So I think if this matters to you, you’ll have to do it or teach your kids to do it. [/quote]

Same. My husband doesn’t notice that he mom is all about many Serving Platters every meal and we’re not.

That said, he’s knows how to set the table with cutlery on the correct side and the glass.  [/quote]

What is the correct side of the glass, who decided, and why? And is it the same for right and left handed diners? Why or why not?[/quote]

The glass goes on the right side.  Above the knife.

I don’t know who decided.  It doesn’t matter.

It is the same for everyone.

The reason is so that you don’t accidentally drink out of someone else’s glass at a sit down dinner.  
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So the important thing by that logic is that the glass is on the *same* side for all place settings, isn’t it? Right or left doesn’t actually matter.

In my family, we actually all have our own glasses that are different colors, so we could put them in the middle of the table and there would be no accidental sippage out of the wrong one!

IOW, there’s more than one way to skin a cat, ladies.[/quote]

No. Right or left matters. [b] You don’t make up your own rules of etiquette in every family.[/b]  The purpose is that they are the same everywhere you go, so that people who don’t know each other don’t have to figure this stuff out every time.  Like walking on the right side of a hallway.  Or waiting for people to get off the elevator before you get on.

[b]Every single time you sit down at a restaurant or a wedding or a sit down dinner party, the fork will be on the left, the knife will be on the right, and your glass will be on the right side above the knife.  [/b]

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Re: the bolded - you absolutely do! Random strangers don’t get to dictate how I set MY table in MY home.

Where do you put the glass if there is no knife? Please don’t tell me you set the table with a knife regardless of whether or not a knife is required… that’s just moronic.

Keep screaming at clouds, Grandma! And PLEASE never leave the country; I don’t think you’ll survive.[/quote]

You can do whatever you want to.  These aren’t laws.  [b]They are ways of smoothing out social interactions between strangers so everyone is more comfortable [/b]and knows what to expect.

I don’t set out knives if we aren’t using knives.  If you don’t have a knife, you put the glass on the right side of the plate, as if there were a knife there.

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Sounds like they’re also ways of causing unnecessary strife within households so everyone is less happy.

I care more about my family than Emily Post loving randos, but you do you![/quote]

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