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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]NP. People on here are petty and jealous.

I know a number of scenarios similar to what this girl wants. Yes, she’s going to have to compromise on some things here and there, but there definitely is the model of attractive/attentive woman who marries a career focused man who wants someone to cater to them. This is not as uncommon as people on here want to admit. In my world, this woman typically comes with some sort of ‘acceptable’ background- went to a good school, from an UMC family, and typically has some sort of limited use but interesting degree/education.

Examples that I know. 
MFA with a lawyer from a wealthy family 
Studio art major with a cardiologist 
Art history major with finance/business bro 
Special ed degree with a doctor (btw- this is the exception to ‘useless’ degree)

None of these women worked [/quote]

Sure, but normally these women are functioning members of society even if their focus is on the home.  They are on the board of the library, part of the local women’s club, volunteering in schools.  In many cases they have traveled and worked a bit before focusing on home life.  They’re not 22 year old passenger princesses who seem to lack interest in all basic adulting skills, but claim they will figure everything out for a ‘high quality’ man.  [/quote]

PP you’re not following. The example you cite are what these women often look like in the future. But my examples are true and match what op posted. An attractive, smart, fairly educated woman from a nice MC/UMC family who wants to marry, not have a career and is willing to cater to her husband as her primary focus.

It’s not the worst thing in the world and in many ways these relationships are easier than when two professionals match up. [/quote]
You read it perfectly. Many wealthy and successful men want a beautiful wife who is going to stay in the background and cater to them.
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But they're not fool enough to believe someone with zero motivation is going to do it excellently. And they'll see the not-driving, can't-be-out-by-myself thing for the mental health problem that it is. They want a WIFE who is discreet and low-drama but is actually a highly capable partner in implementing their life agenda. Not a passenger princess who adds very little, especially when her beauty fades.[/quote]

I’m the PP who knows a number of couples like this. You are wrong. Of course the women are educated and had some stated interests - art, music etc- but it was very clear they never intended to support themselves with these endeavors. Fwiw these couples are still together. [/quote]

DP. I know a few of the couples, but the men themselves were low ambitious trust fund types in the first place 
. They were generally happy to marry a woman who cared less about education/career - but she went to an elite school and effectively came with a dowry (ie, a high earning father who would help fund a home, etc).

It doesn’t sound like OP is that type. [/quote]

Pp in the cases I know, the men were pursuing decent careers although they all came from UMC families with money.

Sounds like OPs cousin is also UMC and family would help funds things as well. The cousin is an English major and smart just not ambitious. This exactly fits the profile of the women I know. I think it’s far more common among UMC/UC than people on here realize. The women are well educated and pretty with some interesting hobby or ‘career’ that will never make $ and that they don’t pursue. [/quote]

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