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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's not good to leave a home empty for months on end.  It's better for them to be lived in.  We actively encourage relatives and friends to use our second home when we're not there.

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It's probably because you've good liability insurance and also [b]extra money[/b] to fix wear and tear caused by unpaid guests.

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This is the crux of the issue. For having 2nd homes, some of the people in here really seem to be living beyond their means.[/quote]

And some of the people in here really seem to be incapable of grasping that not everyone is like their family. I CAN afford to pay thousands of dollars to redo the plumbing in my house because my idiot in-laws flushed things down the toilet that they shouldn't have but I don't WANT to do so again. [/quote]

Imagine that we didn't all marry someone from a different social class. When everyone in the family has their own vacation homes this just isn't a big deal. We don't all have crabs in a bucket mentality because we're from similar backgrounds. You're not doing too great of a job imagining circumstances other than your own. OP never said the BIL was going to destroy anything so not even sure why you're hung up on that.[/quote]

In a family where everyone has a vacation house and can easily afford their own resort/hotel/ rentals to vacation where they want, you don’t have relatives frequently inviting themselves to your home and behaving like it’s community property.

The core issue here is that BIL is being rude and entitled acting like if the house is open it’s free for him. No one enjoys being used. This is no different than always having to be the host for holidays with other relatives acting as if they are entitled to be hosted by you. In most families there are takers and givers. The takers can push their entitlement very far.[/quote]

That's a huge overreaction to brother asking to use it. Just say no, not this time without working yourself into a lather about it.[/quote]

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