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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No matter who decides, the marriage is over so, really, who gives F who "decides"?? [/quote]

In what sad world is a marriage only about sex? [/quote]
Nobody said marriage is only about sex. However sex is part of marriage along with many other things.[/quote]

PP said without sex "the marriage is over." That is simply wrong, and it does, in fact, make the whole marriage about sex, if that one thing must end it. Using an extreme to prove the point: Many married people can no longer have sex, phsyically -- lets say, full paralysis -- Is the marriage over? No. It was never part of any guarantee.[/quote]

Why do people like you insist on bringing in examples of people who can't have sex when OP clearly states that this is about people who simply don't want to?[/quote]

You can reference the OP if you’d like. It's really not rocket science. My spouse knows if I'm sick or dealing with something emotionally. We communicate about what is going on with each one of us personally. We support each other and encourage each other to take care of our health. I guess if there is a lack of trust and a lack of communication, there are bigger issues in the marriage other than “not having sex.”

It’s so amazing to me that so many people on this board have zero issues with bringing up their spouses weight and insisting they get healthy because “they have a duty to take care of themselves for the sake of the marriage,” but if the issue is hormonal or emotional then you’re the assh0le if you insist that your spouse sees a doctor and seek help. 
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There is no thread here asking fat spouses to get thin or divorce since they " simply don't want to" lose weight. If the spouse is failing at the duty to stay thin and/or reasonably attractive, people encourage the other spouse to either offer support or leave. No different here. The spouse with the healthy libido can keep offering support or they can leave. But insisting that this particular failure is of the " simply don't want to" category is a little nuts.[/quote]

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