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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It was a cryptic pregnancy, people.

Read up on it. There are women with irregular cycles who cannot know they are pregnant the normal way. At-home urine tests come up negative if done past two months of pregnancy, because there is too much HCG for it to turn positive. Some women bleed a little during their pregnancies, and might mistake that for a period. Some women, particularly overweight ones, don't show very much until the last minute, if it's their first pregnancy.

In short, yes, it happens.

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As you can imagine, yes I’m looking this stuff up

I have been texting her. She said she feels like a bomb that is waiting to go off. I said, yes, that’s how it feels when you don’t know if you want to be pregnant at all.

I told her do not ever make any decisions based only on what the man in your life says. It’s only your decision that matters. And that she is not a bomb waiting to go off.

I said I would be here for her to ask any questions but that I’ve done XYZ and that there’s no way she knows what to do today. That as she lives and sleeps and keeps waking up day to day she will probably come to a “gut feeling” (and that I hate that expression) but that’s kind of what it is. She’ll know the correct thing to do for herself.

And I perhaps kind of betrayed my son, a little, but I just said, don’t make any decisions based solely on what he thinks. Men just do not live with the same things we women live with. And that by the time this baby is about to arrive, you will know where your heart lies, for the best that you can come up with.

She said she doesn’t want to tell her mom or Grandma because she knows they’d feel a certain way and she doesn’t know how she wants to feel right now. I said that’s all OK.

I guess, as it turns out, I was one of those posters who responded in an old thread that none of my adult kids appear to want actual kids of their own and that I was OK with that considering lots of present day circumstances (“gestures at everything” etc.)

It’s like Final Destination in reverse … Life finds you anyway. (Dark humor, have no other options for lighter humor)

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