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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Thanks for the update.  Once the shock wears off, your son will be okay.  He’s lucky he has two parents who love him and are supportive.

You should also call the GF to offer your support.  Regardless of what happens with your son and her, she’ll always be the mother of your grandchild so you want to be supportive and will also want to stay on her good side since she’ll have a lot to do with how much access you’ll have to your grandchild. [/quote]

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I already texted her. I did have to go find her number, the last time it arrived on my phone was months ago when he was without his own and he was using hers. I hadn’t added it to my contacts. I didn’t ask my son about contacting her but I figured there were two options, ignore her or contact her, and she’s no doubt feeling very alone and afraid herself right now. I’ve met her a few times but not in any truly meaningful way. I didn’t even know her last name until today. I’ve never even seen where he lives, but his dad owns his house and rents it to him and a roommate. I just never went over there because it started out as both an investment and a decorating project for his dad’s girlfriend and I wanted no part of it.

I’m pretty sure his dad is going to tell him he’s got very solid resources that others don’t have.

I’m also giving my son a ton of grace right now for being in too much shock to know all the “right” things to do or say. Also because there have been any number of times in my life where I’ve easily not handled things well, and now’s the time where all that experience comes in. “I just want it to all go away” is something he said, and which is as understandable as it is also not how life works.

Many people have a lot more time to prepare for this kind of life change. This one just came down like a ton of bricks.

I just texted her that regardless of what happens from here, she is not alone and that she has a support system in my son’s dad and in me. No matter how things go that we will all try our best to help her through whatever is coming up. Even if we don’t know what that is just yet.

I guess there are lots of questions about “how did it get this far?” And precautions etc. but that’s neither here nor there anymore, there’s just now.

I’m glad he’s talking, the more he talks the more he processes. 
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