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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do parents worry about kids date/marry different races?  For example, do white parents here worry that their ivy kids marrying tech immigrants’ kids since now there are over 40% of them at Harvard.  [/quote]

I don’t care about the race, more having matching socioeconomic background of the partner. So many more FGLI and Pell Grant kids at top schools nowadays. At least middle/upper middle class preferred.  So much of post-grad life depends not just on smarts, but being able to access parental help, for a first downpayment, being able to avoid grad school loans, just even simple things like not having to help out extended family members if you’re the one who “made it big” from a FGLI family. It would be nice if our side is not the only one that can provide the help, and the other side is not going to be a financial burden. It’s the unfortunate realities of modern capitalist society. Inheritance trumps salary, even for super smart kids, in a lot of ways. [/quote]

Nah. I and many of my ivy peers from the late 90s were first gen or pell grant or both. we all went to top law or med, or Goldman, make top 1-2% income now and donate to charities, pay for top privates live in 2million dollar houses up and down the east coast. Our SES did not hold us back. You do not understand the power of an ivy/stanford etc education and the doors it opens. [/quote]

I am the poster to which you are responding. I am myself a former Pell Grant recipient at an Ivy, and certainly jumped SES compared to my parents, and am all those things which you describe above. What I'm saying is that the current capitalist economy is different from the 90s when you and I were coming up and benefitting from our Ivy educations. Nowadays, it's so much harder to get established as a young adult even with a great education, and a high paying profession. Even in the 90s, consider how different the post-grad years were for my friends from more modest families, compared to those who had parents who could help them out, even if they had identical jobs. Where I live, you'd need a million dollar downpayment just to get a reasonable "family home" of 2000 sq ft. Even with high wages, young grads will  be saving for years and years, to scrape together a downpayment by the age of 40, unless they come from a family that can help, or at least, do not have huge student loan burden. I would prefer if our side are not the only ones who are able to provide that help. [/quote]

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