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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What you call "schmoozing", unmarried aunts might call "company." Being elderly is lonely.  Yes, it's nice that you've visited for all these years 1-2x a year, but if SIL calls once or twice a week every week and chats away with them....well, I'd leave her money, too.  That's legitimately kind and thoughtful.

Is there a chance that they legitimately feel closer to her than to you or your brother?[/quote]

I would hope that if I decided to do something stupid by [b]arbitrarily disinheriting[/b] some family members, a close friend or family member would discuss the matter with me and make sure I'm aware of the consequences. If I have good reasons, that's fine and can be elucidated in such a conversation. Sometimes we all need a gentle reminder to reconsider our actions.[/quote]
This doesn’t seem like it was arbitrary.[/quote]
Aunt sick and dying in the hospital changing her will to a wife of a nephew!?! lol. 
Then hospital divorce was probably mainly to not bankrupt the healthy spouse and get on Medicaid and free hospice asap. [/quote]
OP only just found out about it, but SIL was named as their executor years ago. OP doesn’t really know the details regarding how this came to pass. Apparently, SIL has had a relationship with these aunts that OP knew nothing about. OP is really in no position to judge the aunts or SIL.[/quote]

Of course both sides will be judged, barring an obvious offense or infraction, if you change your will like this later. [/quote]
The aunt who changed her will was getting divorced, so of course that necessitated a new will. It’s unclear whether this is the aunt who is leaving her estate to a charity or the aunt who is leaving her estate to OP’s brother and SIL. Regardless, there is no indication that OP was ever named in any earlier versions of either aunt’s will. If OP was never going to inherit from them, she’s lost nothing. The aunts had no reason to think they needed to discuss their wills or estates with OP. The only reason OP knows anything about any of this is because other family members have been stirring the pot. Maybe OP should contemplate their motivations for trying to pit her against her brother and SIL.[/quote]

Lolz. Surely the aunt predicted decades ago that she’d pick a chosen ones, a spouse of the one of her sibling’s kids to single-handedly get everything, and put that placeholder in long ago.

Surely that makes sense over the boiler plate goes to next of kin equally, which is 90% of the market. [/quote]

Next of kin equally when we're talking about aunts and uncles? Where is this rule written? This isn't a close family, at all. Separated by states and apparently working status. Why OP was counting on her distant aunts' fortunes is anyone's guess. How big are these estates anyway? If they are all rolling in it does this mean that OP stands to inherit a hefty sum from her own parents? Or are we talking about peanuts?[/quote]

Do you not know anything about next of kin succession?  Most Americans don’t have a will, so that’s what is followed in the legal or probate  process to close out things. [/quote]
A sibling would be the next of kin for an elderly, divorced, childless woman, not nieces and nephews. OP’s parents are still alive. One of them is being passed over for OP’s brother. Maybe OP’s parents have a sizable estate of their own and that’s why aunt isn’t simply leaving her estate to next of kin. Maybe brother has had financial problems. Maybe SIL has been very concerned and caring towards them. Maybe brother and SIL are inheriting because they have so many kids. Who knows?[/quote]

No one puts some over age 75 as a will executor. But to choose only one beneficiary from out of state is sus.

Maybe they simply want to make trouble. Karma will handle it OP.

Now you know everyone’s true colors. 
When the will was remade with SIL or them as executors, your brother had the opportunity to say split it two ways for harmony sake or be sibling co-executors. 
He did not, he and his wife agreed to grab it all. [/quote]

Maybe they simply want to do what they like with their own money. Maybe the brother suggested that and the auntie said no. Maybe OP is an enormous PITA to everyone in her family. We only have her side of the story. 
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Let’s assume yes to all your theories.

But you agree it will cause a sibling rift, correct? None was alluded to thus far.

Whether this arrangement was a punishment or whim or senility or hatred or a scheme, it will create a sibling rift now or later. Or at a minimum a loss of trust and respect. [/quote]

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