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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, ignore the mean comments here. I'm a 39F, single mom, who could stand to lose a few pounds and I get dozens of matches a day.

I didn't look through the thread to see if you posted what's on your profile, but my advice:

1. Remove filters NOT because you need to lower your standards, but because most people don't bother filling out their profile all the way. So you'll miss out on people who don't have things filled out 100%.

2. Slightly sexy photos. You don't want to be overtly sexy (turn off for many serious men), but you do want to look beautiful/pretty/etc. Think more girly, sundresses, curled hair. Play up your best feature. Learn how to pose, hire a photographer if needed. My first picture on my profile is me in leggings and a T-shirt, but I have my hair/makeup done VERY well and I'm holding a pen in my mouth so slightly suggestive.

3. Don't lead with a bunch of requirements in your profile, like "I want a man who wants kids blah blah blah". Nobody wants to feel like a broodmare/stallion. The kids conversation comes up later on, after a few dates.

Instead put in things for men to comment on, that make you stand out. The "two truths and a lie" prompt is a good one, along with any unique hobbies, things you collect, etc. I like to give things for men to guess so they have a reason to match/write, so I'll say something like "I collect memorabilia from a popular 90s sitcom" and men write me to guess which one.

4. Pay for Premium and only go through men who have already swiped right on you. I get like 300+ men who swipe right on me a day, there's plenty to go thru and your chances of finding someone goes WAY up.

Good luck! [/quote]

How is 300+ a day possible? Are some of these swipes repeats? Are some of these men based in different locations than you?

*I've never used a dating app so sorry if this is a dumb question. Demographics wise, I'm just wondering how this adds up...well you said you don't use filters..is that how you get 300+?[/quote]

The only settings I have are ages 25-45, within 60 miles, and absolutely no smoking/cannabis use/heavy drinking.

I also don’t go through and swipe. I just check out who has already swiped right on me. Way more efficient and worth the $30 a month.

Yes, 95% of them aren’t men I’m interested in. But I still get 10-20 a day who are men I’d actually be interested in going on a date with.

From there, I don’t talk to anyone who doesn’t reach out to me first. And I unmatch anyone who starts with lame things like “hey” or if the conversation fizzles out quickly. [/quote]

How many dates have you been on?[/quote]

2-3 a week usually.[/quote]

Is it in dmv or a larger urban center and what size of population ? Which site ?

In my experience 47 yo F the 2-3 dates a week would last for a month or so, then all that crazy swiping subsides. If I don’t choose anyone from that batch, the site database would dry up. And I would need to preview the new joining men profiles to give likes myself
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