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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]1. One friend impregnated a woman after a 3-month long intense courtship. He proposed with a huge diamond when she got pregnant. Decided not to marry her a couple months later when it became clear this woman had serious mental health issues (borderline, bipolar, delusional—like believed the golden retriever was trying to kill her). My friend supports both mom and child financially and [b]sees child when he can, [/b]but mom limits that contact. I’m sure mom and child feel he walked away.
2. Other friend was 12 when Dad left big Catholic family, refused to support, and got cancer and tried to change will to leave everything to his make co-worker. They were abandoned, but you can guess the situation.[/quote]
Yeah right. Same old sob story from the deadbeat dads.[/quote]

Yep amazing how so many of these women that get left are “crazy” and “unfit”. Ok so if you think she’s so insane why abandon your kids with her?[/quote]

1. Significant mental illness is very common in women.
2. It's damn near impossible to get the courts to award a man custody and deny it to a woman no matter how crazy she is.[/quote]

No, it’s not. Default is 50/50. If you don’t have 50%, it’s because you don’t want it.

Also, my dad was awarded full custody in the 90s, and my mom wasn’t even crazy or a bad mom. He was just a more involved parent than she was. Anyone who says the court systems don’t award custody to fathers hasn’t really been through the court system, it’s usually because they are completely checked out. [/quote]

I realize it’s hard to understand but there are in fact women who will lie and cheat their way to alienating the father. is the father blameless - no. But having seen this dynamic up close, I cannot fully blame the man who concludes that continually triggering the BPD antics is not good for anyone, and takes a big step back. [/quote]
Maybe he shouldn't have picked such a difficult woman to have children with if NOT dealing with her is more important than having a relationship with his kids. I get the feeling you haven't seen your kids in a while and "it's all her fault" that you've "stepped back" from being a f***ing parent to your children.

End of the day, there are no excuses for dead beat dads like yourself. You can blame the women, you can blame the courts, you can blame the kids. But its you who isn't making the effort to see them. It is you who has abandoned your own flesh and blood. Because why, it's too hard? It's too difficult? It's too annoying? Disgusting. [/quote]

I’m a woman, genius. And I have seen all varieties of splits - including false accusations of abuse, which are enough to deter a lot of people. [/quote]
Do you think most loser dads who abandon their children fit this category? Or is that simply the fraction of most cases? You seem to be tripping over yourself, picking this bone real hard when it doesnt represent very many men. [/quote]

Nobody is doing a scientific survey of “loser dads” here. We are discussing the issue and stating that in some cases of apparent “loser dad” situations, the mom actually took actions to get rid of the dad in full or in part. I have literally watched someone very close to me manipulate the legal system to accomplish this. [/quote]

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