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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The basic problem is that a lot of women maybe most nowadays seem to think they should magically have access to their choice of what they feel is a desirable man.  But there aren't enough to go around.  It's supply and demand.  If you're not getting the kind of man you want, maybe you yourself don't bring enough to the relationship table.  After all, everyone complaining here CANT be all that.  It's just statistics.[/quote]

The thing is a lot of women are perfectly fine with the idea that they either get the type of man that they want or none at all. [/quote]

+1 and it seems a lot of men would like to return to a time when “none at all” wasn’t (economically) an option.[/quote]

It still kind of isn’t an option for most women who want kids. On one hand women have more economic freedom, but this has been negated by insane cost of living. You need to earn a top 2-3% income to comfortably have a kid on your own, and how many women of actual child bearing age are earning 250k+ outside of anecdotal stories of high earning girl bosses on these forums?

The average single woman under 35 can barely afford to sustain herself in a 1BR apartment. Raising kids and paying for child care is out of the question. [/quote]
I don’t think you know a lot of women, because that is not true. Quite a few of my girlfriends either rent or own their own home and are absolutely fine paying their bills. Maybe you mean under 25, but the average 30 year old woman is doing pretty well financially.[/quote]

If single and childless, yes.

I know several women who decided to be SMBC. What they all have in common is very supportive families who live nearby. One even has her mom move in with her. Otherwise it doesn't work. In order to make enough money to support a household with kids, you need the kind of job that tends not to be super flexible or accommodate picking kids up from daycare at 5:59 on the dot. Also the kind of job that makes holiday breaks extra hard. So unless you are making really big money and can afford a nanny even once your kid is in school, you need a co-parent of some kind.

Basically, the grandparents perform the role of "wife" in these arrangements. How many people have parents who want to, or are capable, of doing that? PLUS the kind of career that will support them and their kids (and maybe their parents if the move in)? Not many. This choice remains pretty rare as a result. It's actually more cost effective to have a kid with someone you don't want to marry or live with, because then you share childcare costs and responsibilities.[/quote]

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