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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op- did you get repaid?[/quote]

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Update Op ?[/quote]

I got it sorted out.  I feel like I have already provided a lot of detail and I should have been more careful about being identifiable.  But it got sorted out.

I totally understand the point of view that I should have been specific up front.  I agree.  I thought sending a link with the specific rooms and prices, and stating that I planned to add more rooms was clear enough, but I agree I could have said "if you'd like your kid to come . . . here is my venmo" or something.  Next time I'll do that.

But I am really baffled by this new narrative that people never would have "expected" to pay.  I want to hear more because I can't imagine what you are imagining people thinking.

[b]Part 1[/b]

You sign up your kid for an expensive camp, and pay the nonrefundable fee.

After you signed up (because this camp was filled months ago), a few days before the camp, you are looking for a ride for your kid.  Maybe you planned to take them, and something came up?  Maybe you planned to take them but when you found this opportunity you figured it would be cheaper or easier?  Maybe your kid thought it would be more fun?  Maybe you figured your kid would find a way so you hadn't even thought about arrangements earlier? For whatever reason, your kid was asking for rides from people you don't know well a few days before the camp.

When the first kid asked, I imagined that one of the kid's parents had planned to take him, and had budgeted for a hotel, and gas etc. . . and then something had come up, and so the kid was looking for another way.  When two more kids then reached out, I thought maybe those parents heard about the option and thought "it would be nice not to have to drive".  But that doesn't fit with the narrative that they couldn't afford a hotel room.

[b]part 2[/b]

Another parent you haven't met texts you and two other parents and says "Hey, my kid is Ringo, he says John, Paula and George need a ride to camp.  I'm already planning to go, and I'm happy to take them.  Here is where we are booked.   I can add more rooms."  You reply "yes please!"  and the other parent replies "Great, I have booked the rooms. . . . (more info about meeting place).

What does this parent who is horrified by 3 rooms think at this point.  "Rooms must have been a typo"  "My kid knows I expect him to share, he'll probably turn down the third when they check in."?  Are they still planning on paying for 1/3 of the room?

Or maybe they missed the "-s" and figured all 3 kids would be sharing?

[b]Part 3[/b]

So, for whatever reason you send your kid off, expecting them to share 3 to a room, but your kid comes home and you find out he shared a room with 1 other kid instead of 2.  You decide this means you don't have to pay a cent.  What are you thinking now?  "Oh, they booked 3 rooms, they must be rich.  I don't pay back rich people."  or "How dare they only save me gas and 1/2 of the room I would have needed to take my own kid! I expected to save gas and 2/3 of the room. That's terrible! They don't deserve a cent!"?

Note: This isn't about the other kids any more.  Because the other kids parents paid, and none of them made the argument that since I booked 3 rooms instead of the 2 they booked I am suddenly responsible.  But I am very curious about these hypothetical people that live inside other people's heads.  If you are one of the original people, and you think this is you, we're good!  Sorry I dragged you into this. [/quote]

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