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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think you are making too much of this conventionally beautiful thing, as well as whether assurances need to be daily. I think women just want to be actually seen and desired. Even if we are not conventionally beautiful, other than incel dude who denies that want and desire are synonyms, if you desire to have sex with a woman, there is probably something appealing about her. Tell her what it is!  It’s not “you’re beautiful” if she’s not (and in fact, even if she is, this is pretty boring).  I’ve been told my hair feels and smells great; I have good legs… a great smile. Some of us need more reassurance than others, but why is it so hard to give someone a real compliment?
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It shouldn't be hard. But daily can be a bit much. I don't give my husband compliments or thank yous daily even though he does things worthy of these comments daily. But you are right. If he needed to hear it daily, i would make more of an effort to do so daily instead of complaining and whining  about it.

It's just that sometimes life goes by and you forget to say it all the time, especially if you work long hours or have too many activities going on. If I hear it once a twice a week, I'm good. [/quote]

Why can’t you compliment your husband daily?  I bet that you compliment your children daily, even if they kind of suck at a lot of what they do.  
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I don't compliment my children daily. I say thank you if they pass me salt or open the door or help with something. But I don't call them smart, beautiful, kind, good, everday. I say it sometimes. And I think they are all these things. And they know they are.

Same with husband. I don't thank him enough for all the work he does with the kids schedules and such. I do sometimes tell him I am thankful for how he has these things covered, but i don't say it daily. He just came back from work and rushed them to practice and is now going to pick them up and get something for us to eat. I will say thank you when the food gets here, but I don't say thank you for getting things moving smoothly every evening. I could watch him walk away in jeans and think about his legs but not say anything about how nice he looks because i am on the phone. I think of it and forget when I get off the phone.

He does not tell me daily either. I drop them and pick them from swim every morning too, but he says it sometimes. I am fine with how often he says it. And sometimes he says it in a big way like " you were so right about this location for buying a house or this activity. What are your thoughts on our next steps towards ...?" That's a big compliment for me but it is not a daily occurrence. Or if I were a nice dress on the weekend, he will compliment or if I get my hair done  But it's nowhere near daily.[/quote]

Really?  That is such a different household than mine.  
I can think of a dozen times today that I have complimented each of my children.  I took my 15 your old out to work on learning to drive today, and I told him multiple times that he did x, y, or z well.  He also took the dog on a really long walk, and I told him that the dog looked really happy and he is a good dog owner.  
 My daughter and I are painting her room.  I told her that I like the color she picked out and that she did a good job spackling.  She also had cross-country practice this morning, and she made a new friend.  She is generally shy, and we are new to the area, so I told her that I was proud of her.

My 14 year old is at Boy Scout camp.  Again with a new troop that he doesn’t know well.  I wrote to him and told him that I was proud of him and that a new episode of the podcast we listen to dropped today, and I can’t wait to listen to it with him because his commentary is hilarious.

My husband went to work early this morning, and I thanked him for working so hard for our family.  Then I texted him later to thank him when I saw that he had made me coffee.  He called me earlier this afternoon about an issue he had at work, and I told him that I thought he handled it well.

I think part of this might just be cultural.  I’m from the Midwest, and we just compliment a lot.  My aunt threw a party last weekend, and my cousins and I all told each other how lovely we were, complimented each others children, told my aunt how good the food was and how beautiful her house was over and over again.   
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