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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]NP here; Jew married to a Non-Jew.  Responding to various points that have been brought up in this thread.

I belong to a reform synagogue that is accepting of interfaith marriage and very welcoming to all.  I don't go to services but I am involved in other aspects of synagogue life, volunteering, participating in various educational opportunities etc.  To me being a Jew is so much a part of my identity and I appreciate the values that Judism teaches, but the actual services or spiritual aspects do not move me.  There are lots of "Jewish atheists" in my synagogue.

We have a tree and I have a Star of David topper.  I'm irreverant that way.  I also give a big holiday party every year and call it Chrismukka and serve brisket and latkes with candy canes and egg nog. (lots of other stuff too but you get the idea)

My friends come from all over.  I don't exclusively hang out with Jews.  As I mentioned above, my husband is not Jewish.

I bend over backwards to avoid the "cheap" stereotype.  Eg. I never quibble about a restaurant bill and I tip well.

[b]There is a "Jewish Look" because the grandparents and great grandparents of the majority of Jews in the U.S came from Eastern Europe and the former Soviet block countries during the years 1884-1924.  My great grandparents and grandparents came from Russia and Poland. [/b]

There are many of us that don't necessarily support the current Israeli government, but all of us believe in Israel's right to exist and the need for a Jewish homeland.  I didn't support the GWB administration here at home, but I was and still am proud to be an American.  I don't think that being critical of the Israeli govt equates with being antisemitic.  Sometimes it does, but it isn't automatic. [/quote]

I think that most would agree that there is a "Jewish Look" just as there is an Irish Look, a Swedish Look, an Italian Look, etc.  The question is, why is it offensive to say "you don't look Jewish" or "she looks Jewish" whereas it is not offensive to say e.g. "you don't look Irish" or "she looks so Swedish"?[/quote]

Because this "observation" is often associated with general stereotyping or outright bigotry.  In earlier days, looking, e.g., Irish, was also associated with these things ("no Irish need apply").  Not so much anymore.

I'm Jewish, but I guess I didn't look it, at least when I was a teenager.  I had several experiences with "friends" and acquaintances making blatantly antisemitic remarks to me -- about others.  The best was one when one pretty girl whose pants I wanted to get into was talking about a particular family she didn't like, and I asked her why.  She wrinkled her nose, and said under her breath in a drippingly contemptuous tone, "they're Jews."  I guess my expression gave me away, and she started to apologize, but that was of course it for us.  Happily, I went to the same college with her blonde, blue-eyed cousin, with whom I also had a mutual attraction, and who I fucked.  We had a good laugh about her cousin as part of our pillow talk.

Living well isn't the best revenge; it's fucking their cousin and laughing about them with her.

But back to the original point, yeah, "you don't look Jewish" is up there with asking a black girl if you can touch her hair.[/quote]

You sound sick. Are you a fine example of a classy Jewish man? I hope our daughters (and yours) don't ever meet up with a man like you. Respect yourself first then you can respect others. [/quote]

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