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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We are a black family. In terms of support, outcome, etc. You are going to have to bake in the cake that there is going to be racism. All of my kids scored btw 1450-1580 on the SAT and were above a 4.3 GPA. All of them were well in the window of what someone would need to get in where they applied. All of them were seriously, seriously discouraged from applying to highly selective schools. We took over the process for our oldest and here's out it shook out.

DD1. Went to a 7 sisters college. Attended medical school after doing peace corps. Is (still) in her medical training.

DD2. Went to UVA. Landed the Jefferson DESPITE terrible recommendations. We weren't planning on her attending but the money was good and UVA had the program she wanted. Finishing up a PhD program in the social sciences on the west coast.

DD3. Went to Chicago. Went into banking. Got a fun MBA. Went back to finance and hates it and wants to do something else, but isn't sure what.

DD4 at an IVY.

All of these kids were actively discouraged. I've had parents say some out and out hateful things, disparaging their hard work. It is what it is. People use racism as a way to screw people and get a financially higher up on the ladder. It is ALWAYS about money and resources. I did time in biglaw and it was horrendous and racist and terrible. Went to DOJ where things were awesome until recently. Working in house and it's fine. DH is a PA and he's able to just quit if his environment is terrible. We both know what it's like to move in this country. It's just awful, but if you want resources, a good life, etc. you just keep moving.[/quote]

Thanks for sharing. I’m so sorry your family went through this. That’s awful that outsiders set lower expectations for your kids, and I’m glad you were there to help them fight that. Congratulations to your kids for their accomplishments. Let’s hope things improve for everyone. I can’t say I understand how it is because I don’t know how it feels to be discouraged from aiming higher, the way your kids were. I’m Asian-American and my kid just went through the admissions process in 2024. I guess one can say we’re facing the process from a position of overinflated external expectations and that has its own challenges. [/quote]

Not the person you're responding to, but I appreciate your understanding coming from the Asian American community. There are a lot of DCUM trolls who are/clam to be Asian American who are very racist in their takes against blacks.. History has shown that there are more Asian American allies than trolls. Just not in DCUM. 😁

Thanks again.[/quote]

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