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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You should get a second job. He should be working at McDonald’s if he has to.[/quote]

She should get a second job to support her husband in his job search when he isn't working?  He needs to take a job or two to earn income and continue his job search.  [/quote]

+1.  I don't know why y'all are telling OP to get a second job when her DH can't be bothered to get something part-time while he's looking for something FT.[/quote]

It’s all hands on deck, that’s how they should approach it as a team rather than her blaming him for trying to advance their family.

She might be able to pick up some tutoring jobs in a second, they pay way more than him picking up some shifts at Starbucks. It depends on his skill set and his ability to find well paid part-time work, but if they both have extra hours, like she does in the summer or after 4 PM, they should try to put them to use the other spouse. Will be available to take care of the kids. [/quote]

This is stupid.

Obviously, all energy should be focused on husbands re-employment.

But this isn't about helping, it's about being mean right? [/quote]

You have to be realistic about who is more likely to maximize income at this point. [b]She might be able to pivot to a state govt job [/b]making much more or a ed tech company, she is gainfully employed and ageism is actually less severe for women within education and medical fields. She could easily double her salary with the right move; he could get a job at Target and make enough to cover her gas money. You just have to be strategic and both be gunning to maintain their lifestyle.

Or they give up and move some place cheaper where a teachers salary can give a middle class lifestyle.

Instead she’s talking about her marriage dissolving and that will be the worst financial outcome.

We are in a white collar recession. He probably needs to pivot to teaching or nursing, but that will take education to become eligible. [/quote]

State govt jobs typically do not pay much more than teachers.  And guess who else is applying for all the state jobs right now?  Laid off Feds.  Heck that could be part of the problem her DH is havng - there are a lot of educated people looking for work right now, competition is high.

However, if DH can't/won't find a job in this area, relocating to somewhere with a lower COL but still decent teacher pay (not always compatible, I know) should be on the table.  I'm originally from upstate NY and teaching is not considered a job for the poors like it is here.  [/quote]

Department of Education Salaries
Highest salary at Department of Education in year 2024 was $259,144. Number of employees at Department of Education in year 2024 was 667. Average annual salary was $79,634 and median salary was $80,133. Department of Education average salary is 70 percent higher than USA average and median salary is 84 percent higher than USA median salary.

The average annual salary for Fairfax County Public Schools (FCPS) is approximately $64,398. This includes salaries for teachers, administrators, and support staff. The average teacher salary in FCPS is around $69,571, which is above the national average.

And Richmond is a lower COL than FFX.
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Whether it’s really lower COL depends on what the OP’s current mortgage is.  Moving is expensive.

Anyway, I looked at available vacancies with the state and there are few at the moment, so maybe OP should focus on helping her DH find employment rather than trying to get a marginal salary increase for herself that would necessitate moving.[/quote]

I find it amusing that all these SAHM feel like they have an impact on their DH career, outside of  taking care of the kids when they’re working and running their errands for them. You aren’t going to find your DH a job if he’s unemployed.  It’s not like you have a network of contacts in the industry or can speak meaningly to his actual work product. So OP can’t help him find a job, but she can increase her own income.[/quote]

Ever heard of a recruiter?  Their whole job is getting people interviews and pushing resumes for roles they know nothing about.

Plenty of SAHMs are college educated and have resume and cover letter writing experience, can use the internet, Linkedin, etc.  [/quote]

This gets better and better.  A recruiter??bothers how you see yourself?  I thought raising children was a full time job, and now you claim to have the deep and varied network, up to date resume authorship, and reputation among corporate hiring managers as a recruiter?

I agree they can probably “use the internet” with the best of them. [/quote]

I'm not a SAHM.  Neither is OP.  I see you as an idiot.  That's how I see "yourself."

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