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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’s really amazing to me that so many smart and well educated women seem to believe that the only way to be intellectually engaged is by working some job. [/quote]

What other ways do you suggest?[/quote]

Idk, I’m a working mom and my job at a F500 stopped being intellectually stimulating around the time I returned from my first maternity leave six years ago. I am burnt out from trying to be both a mother and employee to my standards. Frankly, I’m not sure why people feel it’s their place to pressure women to be “intellectually stimulated” through full time work while also carrying most of the weight of childcare.

I’m not sure who needs to hear this, but it’s okay to want to be a present, full time parent and make room for that in your life. It’s okay if being “intellectually stimulated” takes a back seat to raising your kids in that season of life.

And yes, there are ways to be intellectually stimulated without working in some corporate job. Most jobs are not exactly intellectual or stimulating. I work in a stuffy corporate financial services environment and my job bores me to death.

[b]I’d rather be reading, at a book club, writing, reading a NYT article, teaching my kids their alphabet, or spending time with the amazing people they are and are becoming. All of those things are both more stimulating and meaningful to me than redundant meetings and town halls done by one of thousands of cogs in the wheel. [/b]I am replaceable at work, but I’m not replaceable to my kids.

If I could afford to, I’d quit and go back to work when I was ready[/quote]

I’m baffled by really anyone who would rather work for a corporation/organization than be free to do whatever they’d like. I can possibly understand if you own your own company that is somewhat interesting work. But a corporation or the federal government? No way. I have a desirable career and know at the end of the day I’m a cog in the wheel. I have to attend pointless meetings, enter leave in a system, spend most of my day responding to emails and Teams chats, and subject to ridiculous RTO rules where I commute to sit alone in a conference room in Teams. I am working because they pay me money. Reading a book of my choice is more intellectually stimulating than this.

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Yes thank you.  100% if we could afford it, neither my husband nor I would work for money.  This cannot be uncommon.[/quote]

I just went on a girls trip with friends. I am the only SAHM. Everyone else works. Some are divorced. DH earns more than possibly everyone combined on the trip, including their spouses. My friends all said they wished they had my life and I am living the dream. The most competent one in the group is high earning but like high six figure earning so very high for a woman, but not so high for a man. She is going through a divorce and likely will have to buy her husband out on the house and pay him alimony and child support. She will also be on hook for kids’ college.[/quote]

Meh, to each their own.[b] I think being financially dependent on a man who is in no way an equal parent sounds awful to me [/b]so I wouldn't want your life. Luckily I like mine. Sounds like your friends are going through tough times so no wonder your life sounds better to them. [/quote]

But it’s okay to be financially dependent on a corporation that doesn’t parent, and probably doesn’t even provide sufficient parental leave?

I think a lot of posters have a false sense of security with their jobs. Consider how many women were dedicated to their federal government job that no longer exists. We are all financially dependent on others - the US government, banks/brokerage accounts, childcare providers etc. The unfortunate reality is that even if you have a great job, most women are hurt financially from divorce. [/quote]

Do you not even appreciate the irony of your post? You're ok being financially dependent on a man who is financially dependent on a corporation but you'll attack a woman who works for one? GTFO.[/quote]

I hope that you aren’t expected to have conversations with other adults if you consider anyone disagreeing with you or raising a point that might undermine your argument as attacking you.[/quote]

I mean…pp was right though. np[/quote]

No one has been attacked on this thread.  Words have meaning.[/quote]

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