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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’s really amazing to me that so many smart and well educated women seem to believe that the only way to be intellectually engaged is by working some job. [/quote]

What other ways do you suggest?[/quote]

Idk, I’m a working mom and my job at a F500 stopped being intellectually stimulating around the time I returned from my first maternity leave six years ago. I am burnt out from trying to be both a mother and employee to my standards. Frankly, I’m not sure why people feel it’s their place to pressure women to be “intellectually stimulated” through full time work while also carrying most of the weight of childcare.

I’m not sure who needs to hear this, but it’s okay to want to be a present, full time parent and make room for that in your life. It’s okay if being “intellectually stimulated” takes a back seat to raising your kids in that season of life.

And yes, there are ways to be intellectually stimulated without working in some corporate job. Most jobs are not exactly intellectual or stimulating. I work in a stuffy corporate financial services environment and my job bores me to death.

[b]I’d rather be reading, at a book club, writing, reading a NYT article, teaching my kids their alphabet, or spending time with the amazing people they are and are becoming. All of those things are both more stimulating and meaningful to me than redundant meetings and town halls done by one of thousands of cogs in the wheel. [/b]I am replaceable at work, but I’m not replaceable to my kids.

If I could afford to, I’d quit and go back to work when I was ready[/quote]

I’m baffled by really anyone who would rather work for a corporation/organization than be free to do whatever they’d like. I can possibly understand if you own your own company that is somewhat interesting work. But a corporation or the federal government? No way. I have a desirable career and know at the end of the day I’m a cog in the wheel. I have to attend pointless meetings, enter leave in a system, spend most of my day responding to emails and Teams chats, and subject to ridiculous RTO rules where I commute to sit alone in a conference room in Teams. I am working because they pay me money. Reading a book of my choice is more intellectually stimulating than this.

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Well, your job sounds like it sucks. I work at home, help people, and find my job mostly fulfilling. I can think of one pointless meeting I've had this year, the rest have had purpose. Of course I email people, but the communications serve a purpose. I like interacting with my co-workers and laugh with them at least once a day. And I do find my job intellectually stimulating. I think everyone is different, and many jobs are different. [b]If I didn't get paid to do this I would do some version of it for free,[/b] so why not get paid a ton to work at home in my yoga pants?[/quote]

Are you able to understand that most people are not interested in doing their job or a similar one for free?

It sounds like you have low expectations if you’re really that content spending your day in your yoga pants in front of a screen. You say you’ve had one pointless meeting this year which is comical. [/quote]

I never said I think everyone else thinks like me. I acknowledged that PP's job sounds like it sucks. Maybe yours does, too.

I'm not sure what you mean by low expectations. Why does wearing a suit mean I'm working harder? I work on a computer, yes, but I also spend time on calls, both video and on my phone. I interact with people all day long.

It's so funny to me that you people have to tear down anyone who might enjoy their job to justify how you feel. Some people like what they do, they're good at it, and they don't waste their time on meaningless work.[/quote]

You have low expectations if you truly enjoy sitting in yoga pants behind a screen all day. [/quote]

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