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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband and I are a team.  We both are able to work jobs with decent work/life balance and get to many practices, scout events, etc.  I'm happy with that arrangement.  Both of us could make significantly more at higher stress jobs.[/quote]

My husband and I are a team too.
But just as most teams don’t have two pitchers or two catchers on the field, we have different roles.
His is to earn a living to support us financially. Mine is to take care of the home and children. One can argue that our responsibilities overlap sometimes because the fact that we don’t need childcare contributes to our not needing additional earnings to pay for childcare—or [b]sometimes he will drive the kids ti a sporting practice when the other kid has to be at another activity.[/b] But for the most part, we just go about our “teamwork” in a different way from the way your team works.
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Some of us would like our husbands to do more than "sometimes drive a kid to a sporting practice." But glad your teamwork works for you. [/quote]

But, lady, get over yourself.  You sound like a petulant child with your “sOmE oF uS…” outrage and jealousy.

Just worry about your own family and maybe think about what steps you need to take to become happier.  You’re clearly bitter AF.[/quote]

Not bitter, just wouldn't be interested in a lifestyle where my children's parent sometimes drove them places. If that works for you, then great![/quote]

DP here. DH is really successful and has a very demanding job. The type of man who is earning seven figures does not have a predictable schedule. He is loving and present but we can’t depend on him to take Johnny to soccer or Jane to dance. He will take Jane to dance and loves to watch her whenever he can and it usually averages out to 1-2x per week. I’m on my own juggling our three kids the rest of the time. On weekends, DH goes to every game.

I have 3 kids at 3 different schools with different start times, different spring breaks, varying teacher work days, etc. Summer is 3 months off and there are not many weeks where all 3 kids are even going to school 5x per week. Add in snow days, sick days, field trips, school thanksgiving lunch, middle school games at 245, doc appointments, orthodontist appointments, etc and my days are busy.

Most moms work. I think it is very hard to put your all into your work and kids. Very hard. I have many super mom friends who are both successful at work and amazing mothers. They give up sleep. They wake up before the kids wake up to work out, get ready, pack lunch and then they flex at work so they can get out early, are present foe their kids and then log back in at night to finish up their work. I absolutely do have a far easier and leisurely life. I run all my errands when kids are in school. I work out daily after I drop kids off at school. I have 5 hours when kids are in school. [/quote]

I love it when SAHMs list all the things they do every day like other people don't deal with the exact same things. You think only your kids are off for summer? Only your kids go to the doctor? Live your life however you want, but some of us want more than just a husband who is successful and has a very demanding job. But good luck working out three different spring breaks this year. [/quote]

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