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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Parents can’t win. If we offer up some pizza, we are socially engineering our kids. If we let them roam, we aren’t involved enough.[/quote]

Offering some pizza and hosting is perfectly fine, just let your kid decide who to invite and stick with who they invited. It should be a day for the kids IMO - not for the parents. [/quote]

I disagree. You can invite all kids, and your kid can invite their friends too.  When adults also come to the party, all kids behave well and become inclusive.  As a result, inclusive behavior becomes the norm after a few such events.  The kids also find new friends once they get to interact with everyone.

But, you guys do you.  [/quote]

Sorry but at the middle and high school ages, inviting the parents is just unnecessary helicoptering. My teens would be mortified. Not to mention people have more than one kid, and can’t be expected to attend multiple parties, hand out candy and trick or treat all at once.[/quote]

No, it is not helicoptering. Your teens seem to have a problem if they will be mortified.

You invite every one and their kids, which means that siblings will also attend.   AND the party happens before ToT starts.  They all start their ToT from your house where you give candy to every kid.  Teens can go on their own, and other kids can walk with their parents and each other.  Where is the problem?

You all have paralysis by analysis.  You assume that your kids will be mortified, that other parents will have gazillion parties to go to, that siblings will be an issue, that handing candy will be an issue.

The truth is that you are from a culture where there is no concept of hospitality and inclusiveness. You have no idea how to parent, how to host, how to be a guest and how to include everyone.  So you spin your wheels. 
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How diverse is your kid's friend group? Your post sounds very familiar. You are probably the Indian mom in this forum who constantly says she is non Christian non white, praises herself about her home coming parties and other parties where everyone is included. I bet most of the parents in your group are from your own culture.[/quote]

Ah. I’m not that mom but you’re a white mom with kids with weak analytical skills, and are no doubt one of the many, many women who get supremely pissed at the academic prowess of the South Asian kids in DMV schools. Good luck, dummy! Please do share DC’s actual college admissions here, should be a real hoot.[/quote]

Ha I knew you were Indian just by the way you write. Too bad you couldn't figure out that I am Indian too. [/quote]

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