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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I was a single mom - raised three kids on my own after I divorced my abusive, alcoholic husband who then went no-contact with the kids. It was not easy. There was very little help and any help often came with strings. But if someone who is actually single wants to cell themselves a single mom, I don’t police it. I don’t know the workings of their relationship and just accept it for face value. I do get annoyed when married women claim they are single moms when their husbands are working or deployed. They have two paychecks, job benefits, moral support and aren’t looked down upon. They’re not single moms. The rest of us who are single, single by choice, divorced, widowed, etc? Yeah, some have it better, some have it worse, but I’m okay with calling us single parents. [/quote]

So you do police it.  If a woman can pretend she’s a single mother just because she’s divorced (even though she splits custody with her ex), then a military wife whose spouse is deployed certainly can.  She is actually taking on *more* of a single parent role than the woman who has to make nice with Daddy at the soccer field.[/quote]

Nah - my ex was military. It is not being a single mom. When I was a military wife, I had his entire check, supplemented for having kids and being deployed, a community that looked out for me, respect of neighbors and he was eventually coming home. I was married; he just was physically at work for awhile. A divorced woman is not married, does not have his entire check, does not have the support or respect of a married person. [/quote]

You don’t need his entire check because he is not living with (hence your expenses are lower).  Your kids have both parents and both your checks.

You’re not a single mom.  Stop lying.[/quote]

Huh? Once I divorced, I didn’t get any of his check and my kids didn’t see their dad. But you have real issues going around policing other people’s lives. [/quote]

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