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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]the hiding in the cars thing is pathetic[/quote]

It seems like something only a deeply burned out parent would do. One who is probably asked to do 10,000 “extra” things and the scoreboard is one too many (they probably need to take a work call or write five emails during the game).  They got their kid to the game, that has to be enough. [/quote]

Do you not think the person doing the asking also has work calls, five emails (some about the league!), and 10,000 extra things to do?

Volunteers don't magically have more bandwidth than everyone else. They just make room.[/quote]

Magically? No. But they have time to volunteer and they have proactively decided to volunteer at [b]that[/b] time.

The person you’re mad at not running the scoreboard? How do you know she didn’t just come from (volunteer) coaching swimming? How do you know the emails she needs to do during the game aren’t themselves volunteer work? If you choose to volunteer for soccer that’s great, you don’t get to choose it for everyone else. 
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OK, if you don't want to volunteer for soccer and the league is about to fold, then you can find a new soccer league I guess. These things don't magically run themselves and if nobody wants to help that's cool - it'll be pay-to-play on the pre-academy U6 team if you want to learn to dribble a soccer ball. Sorry if you can't afford that or didn't want your 5 year old at 2 practices a week. Nobody cared enough to keep rec going.[/quote]

Ok, so you guilt the mom out of the car. She runs your scoreboard, and doesn’t do whatever she needed to do after coaching swimming.  Now it’s next summer and she drops coaching swimming because she’s fried. That’s fine because at least there is soccer? Or is what she chose to use her time for as valuable as what you chose to use your time for— no summer swim team for your kid at your pool isn’t less of a tragedy than no Rec soccer. [/quote]

Be real. The parents who hide outside or "on the phone" and then sneak in once the game has begun are NEVER the parent who also
runs the swim team. Its the same parents helping out with all the different sports and the same parents not helping out (some for legit reasons, some are just selfish and lazy).[/quote]

It’s really insular to assume you know every activity her kid is in and that yours shares it. Ok maybe you swim at the same pool but do you do every other activity with every parent who isn’t score keeping for you?

Going into this with the presumption that nothing a parent is doing could POSSIBLY be as important as score keeping basketball is rude and entitled. Whatever they’re doing may benefit your kid— or not— but it’s not up to you to prioritize their time, especially if you’re not willing to say up front “each family needs to score keep for x games”[/quote]

Everyone knows its the same parents who volunteer for multiple activities. You see the same parents helping out across multiple activities in your community. In pp's example, the same people ducking out on their swim team hours are the same people hiding in their car or pretending to be on the phone.
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Nope. My kid is in four activities: dance, swimming, tennis, and girl scouts. I volunteer for the first two and not the second two. I was a dancer growing up so that's a natural fit and volunteering for summer swim works well with my schedule. Kid is in a tennis rec league and I do nothing-- the volunteers who run it seem enthusiastic and I know nothing about tennis. I secretly dislike girl scouts and absolutely shirk volunteer duty there. Sorrynotsorry.

I volunteer some at school but am always having to beg off certain things. I want to do some things and not others. I find it annoying because no one cares that you volunteered for 8 hours for the fall festival if you don't raise your hand for the spring auction. So I do wind up being the parent avoiding eye contact during volunteer drives or dropping my kid off in the car in the morning the PTA is handing out flyers so they can't see me.

The "volunteer for everything" people assume everyone is either just like them or a slacker. No. It's that some of us have boundaries. You won't respect them so sometimes we hide from you because it's easier. I make zero apologies for this. Stop thinking you are entitled to my time.[/quote]

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