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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This isn’t new. My suitemate’s parents at my Ivy League school did this back in the late 90s. They flew out monthly or more to take their kid shopping, take her out to nice meals, type her term papers, edit her term papers, write up her sources, and quiz her for exams. Sometimes they would take her friends drinking and even come to parties. She treated it like the most normal thing ever but my other suite mates and I were appalled. We had never seen anything like it and assumed she would flail after graduation. So naive of us!

She got into Yale Law School and has had a great life ever since. I had other kids on my floor who had parents stay nearby to handle laundry, food shopping, package pickup, etc. They were all super successful and confident, maybe because they knew they had a safety net and could focus on school and extracurriculars without worrying about time management or chores.

Agree with the PP who said this is a rich people problem- these were very rich people. [/quote]

This raises such a good point about what is “enough” when it comes to parenting a young adult.

I tend to do less because my parents were very hands off. I basically had to figure everything out myself, but I don’t think that is the best way.

For example, I didn’t know how to apply to college and my parents did not do anything to help. I also didn’t think about careers or, later, know to invest part of my paycheck. I missed five years of saving for retirement. It took years before I had a career instead of just a job. I’m not sure that their lack of counsel or advice was helpful to my life…

So, I will pass on lessons, help my kids set up their first IRA, encourage them to apply for internships, and more.

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