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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP sounds very type A. OPs dh less so. I'd be surprised if the kids actually enjoy non-stop activities, especially with their parents. [/quote]

Well, he doesn't nap when the activity interests him. So, I don't think the problem is that it's "non-stop activities", it's just activities he doesn't care about.[/quote]

Their job is to plan vacations that work for everyone. Sounds like both parents are failing.

Anybody in the family should be able to opt out some - not all -activities they don't care about.  They aren't conjoined quadruplets. [/quote]

Well... parents don't get to opt out. They're stuck with the job. [/quote][/quote]

I don't disagree with that. [b]Mom and kids think they're getting fun active vacations, Dad thinks he's taking naps[/b].

I mean, none of my family vacations go the way I want them to. But, you know, that's what I signed up for. :([/quote]

There is a way to accommodate both, but neither parent seems to want to do that.  OP wants 24/7 go-go-go togetherness and DH wants a daily nap on a rigid schedule.  [/quote]

Well, we don't know that OP wants 24/7 go-go-go togetherness, but we do know that there are important things she plans for midday at least some of the time. DH has that rigid schedule. It seems easier for one to compromise than the other. [/quote]

What are the important things she plans for midday at least some of the time? She has not actually told us. [/quote]

Doesn't matter. She and the kids have expectations that something is going to happen that involves him spending time with his kids. He has an expectation that he will get a nap, no questions asked.

As a parent myself, I know which one of these has to change, but they, as a couple, need to work it out. Decide which is the priority.[/quote]
And why do we have to spend 24/7 with our kids? Once you become a parent you are still a person with individual wants and needs. It's ok to relax on vacation! Try it! [/quote]

If I want a kid free vacation, I take one. When I go with my family, I do my best to make it the best vacation they can have. Maybe you have different priorities, that's okay. In this family's case, 3/4 members of the family understand the vacation is going one way, and the other, inflexibly, insists it has to go the other. [/quote]

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